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How can I have HPV? I only had sex with one person!”

It’s a question doctors hear all the time. Patients have a hard time handling the diagnosis of a sexually transmitted disease (STD), especially if it’s a viral STD that they will have for life. With these there’s no turning back. There are so many myths about the transmission of STDs. Here are just ten of the STD myths that you should be aware of.

Myth #1: I can’t get a STD from oral sex.

Newsflash…YOU CAN. STDs can be transferred by skin-to-skin contact, genital-to-genital contact and oral-to-genital contact. If you question whether you have an STD, you need to tell your doctor what kind of sex you are having (oral, anal or vaginal). Your doctor would need to test each area separately depending on the type of sex you’re having with your partner.

Myth #2: Using a condom protects against STDs.

Nope. Since herpes sores and genital warts can spread beyond the coverage that a condom provides, both diseases can be still be transmitted even when a condom is worn. Another word of advice; don’t substitute plastic wrap for a condom. It won’t work, trust us.

Myth #3: Two condoms are always better than one.

Sounds about right….NOT. If one condom is not enough to prevent the transfer of some STDs it’s logical to think that doubling up would provide STD protection, right? Negative. It is never recommended to wear more than one condom at a time.

Myth #4: Taking a birth control pill protects against STDs.

Totally false. No contraceptive pill is going to prevent the transfer of sexually transmitted diseases.

Myth #5: I will be able to tell whether my partner has a STD.

You CANNOT tell by simply looking at a person whether they have a STD. The truth is that some STDs, such as gonorrhea or chlamydia can be completely silent, meaning that there aren’t any telltale symptoms. The only way to know for sure that someone does not have a STD would be STD testing.

Myth #6: The chlorine in a hot tub kills semen and prevents transfer of STDs.

FALSE. Although chlorine smells like a disinfectant, it isn’t. Which means, it does NOT kill bacteria that could cause the transfer of a sexually transmitted disease (bacterial or viral). It also does NOT kill sperm on their journey towards conception.

Myth #7: I’ve only had sex with one person so there’s no way I could have gotten an STD.

Think so, huh? Did you know that if you have sex with ONE person who has only had ONE other sexual partner, you have up to an 84% chance of getting HPV (genital warts)? What do you think happens to that percentage if you and/or your partner has had multiple sexual partners? Plus, remember that HPV can be transferred through oral contact with or without fluid exchange.

Myth #8: I’ve only had 4 sexual partners and I plan on staying with my current partner so I don’t need to worry about getting tested.

Wrong…check out the sexual exposure chart below! If you’ve had 4 sexual partners, and they’ve had 4 partners, in reality you’ve really been exposed to 15 people. So now what do you think about getting tested? No matter how many sexual partners you’ve had, it’s always recommended to get tested for STDs, especially if you are making the choice to continue being sexually active.

(Source: http://www.decisionschoicesandoptions.org/abstinence.html)

Myth #9: I’ve been sexually active with multiple partners for several years…I would know by now if I had a STD.

You may THINK you are in the clear BUT…the truth is that many STDs, such as gonorrhea and chlamydia, can be asymptomatic (silent) especially in women. Men are going to be aware of a bacterial infection but women may not know that they have gonorrhea for several years. By the time they get the diagnosis, it may be when they are ready to settle down and have a family and they may have to face the possibility of being infertile.

Men can often be the carriers of some high risk HPV that can cause cervical cancer in women. Men, do you really want to settle down with the woman of your dreams only to find out that she is facing a diagnosis of cervical cancer due to the fact that you were carrying HPV and didn’t even know it?

Myth #10: I can’t have two STDs at once.

WRONG. You can definitely have more than one STD at a time. When doctors test for chlamydia they often test for gonorrhea as well because these two bacterial infections can frequently go hand in hand. There can also be several other combinations of STDs such as HPV and herpes.

We hope that these facts have been helpful for you and that you will get tested if you’ve been sexually active. As you can see, it doesn’t matter what kind of sex you’ve had, whether it’s been once or 25 times, or with one or several partners…you are at risk of receiving or transmitting a sexually transmitted disease.

And even more, we hope that you will consider your future. The best prevention is to have a mutually monogamous marriage relationship; ONE partner for life.

Is there another myth out there that we didn’t cover?

Have a question? Leave a comment below!

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There are 234 comments .

layla —

I had sex with a guy and we used a condom ..but i gave him oral with out one and noticed he had bumps …he said it was jock itch and he was embarrassed so i quickly stopped but we put a condom on and had sex…a few days later he comes from the doc and says he has HPV..Now im sure I have it ,…im so scared I cry Im going crazy …I have a child and im scared can my child get it?? also if i get the vaccine now not knowing if i have it or not would it help?

PLEASE help email or anything please

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    CollageCenter

    We’re glad you contacted us and we’ll sure try to help. Although we don’t do STD testing at our clinic, our medical director, Dr. Michele Krieger has reviewed your questions.

    Concerning your first question about whether you should worry about your child contracting HPV, Dr. Michele said that HPV is spreadthrough intimate contact. Normal touching and play activity with yourchild does not put your child at risk of HPV. Babies born to mothers with HPV have a rare risk of obtaining HPV related disease along their vocal cords, but this is very rare.

    In response to your second question about whether you should get the HPV vaccine she said that the HPV vaccine is recommended for women and girls between the ages of 9 and 26. It is best to get the vaccinebefore initiating sexual contact since that gives the most protection against the virus. It is still recommended to have the vaccine if you are theappropriate age and have had sexual contact. The vaccine will not be as protective to the person, but can still be helpful. The vaccine is now recommended for boys and men in the same age group.

    We understand that this is a very personal topic and we hope that Dr. Michele’s above responses have helped answer your questions. Additionally, we highly recommend that you consider contacting your family physician about STD testing to confirm if you did in fact contract HPV.

    We would be glad to provide a free pregnancy test if you think there is a chance you could be pregnant. Let us know if there is anything more we can do to help you.

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    Kristianna —

    If your are pregnant odds are your child will have HPV too cause you can get it from your partner and also if your parents have a STD

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      CollageCenter

      Hi Kristianna,

      Women should be able to carry a child and have relativity low incidence in passing HPV to baby. You would definitely want to tell your doctor if you have had HPV or currently have it. If the child gets HPV, many times their bodies will clear it on their own. HPV can have symptoms of genital warts, this can affect you and baby in a few ways. If the warts get too big, it can affect the birthing process. The warts would either need to get treated or have the baby cesarean section. And it can also cause laryngeal papillomatosis in the baby where they get the warts in their throats, which they would need treated for.

      It is very important for women who are pregnant to get screened for STD’s as they do affect baby and pregnancy. Many STD’s like chlamydia, gonorrhea, syphilis, trichomoniasis and bacterial vaginosis can be treated and cured with antibiotics. The other STD’s that are viral cannot be cured but often helped with medications to help reduce the risk of passing on to baby.

      Here’s a link to the CDC where I gathered a lot of this information and has great information on STD’s and pregnancy:
      http://www.cdc.gov/std/pregnancy/stdfact-pregnancy.htm

      Thanks for your question and hope this helps!

      Collage Medical Team

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Michelle —

Thank you for this info site. It helps us see our culture of promiscuity lies to us. Our parents/grandparents got the best advice and lived it: wait until after marriage to give your body to another. They were healthier in body, mind, and soul . . . and divorce was very rare. Here’s to the New Sexual Revolution: after marriage = true love, health, and lasting happiness!

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anonymous —

Can woman transfer gonorreah and chlamydia to men?

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anonymous —

If a girl has genital warts but is not having an outbreak neither in the mouth nor the genital area, can it still be transferred if the girl gave oral sex to a guy?

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anonymous —

Me and my fiance’ has only been sexually active with each other, and we’re both virgins when we started having sex. Can we still have or get a STD?

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    CollageCenter

    You need to consider what other types of sexual contact you’ve had with other partners. This would include hand to genital contact, oral contact along with penile/vaginal penetration. We would suggest contacting your family physician to discuss getting tested. Thanks for your question!

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    Mari —

    I have a question, I lost my virginity at 15 with my first boyfriend and we were together for 3 and 1/2 years then we break up. 5 months later I have sex with another guy( i was the second girl he slept with in 1 year ) when I was drunk and then the next week have sex with another guy who was a virgin and now I’m worried if I do have STI.

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      CollageCenter

      Hi Mari,

      I think it’s right to be concerned about possibly having an STD, however try not to let it consume you! The fact that you have had a few sexual partners and they have had other partners, does put you at risk. It is easy to get tested, and then if need be treated. At our center we test and treat chlamydia and gonorrhea for free. Most clinics test for STD’s too. I’d take it one step at a time and find somewhere to have an STD test done and go from there. You’ll have peace of mind knowing. Then I might encourage you to wait sexually till you meet that man of your dreams that you want to spend and commit the rest of your life with! I know it’s hard but then you can enjoy sex freely and fully without ever worrying about these STD’s! Just remember it’s an option! 😉

      Thanks for your question! And yes, I would recommend getting tested – for your health and peace of mind for you!
      Hope this helps!

      Collage Medical Team

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Kit —

Hi,

My partner and I have been sexually active for the past 2 years. We haven’t had sex with anyone else but each other. However we both have kissed only one other person other than each other. Is it possible that we may have an STD? Also, my period this month was abnormally very painful, what may have caused this?

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    CollageCenter

    Great questions! We really appreciate you taking the time to submit your questions! Because there are STDs that can be transmitted orally, there is a chance of having an STD such as herpes which can be transmitted orally even if the other person does not have any symptoms at the time of contact. As far as your question about your painful period, we would suggest contacting your family physician about that.

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Anonymous —

I hear people say cold sores on the mouth is a type of STD.
Should you not kiss someone when you have a cold sore?
Is that true?

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VIVIENNE —

i have an STI but my boyfreind doesnt have it,and his the only guy i’ve ever slept with,where could i have gotten it from? an what sort STI IS IT? cause i have warts on my vagina,yellowish discharge,i had back pains,burns and was itchy.

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    CollageCenter

    VIVIENNE – Hi! Sexual contact is not always required for someone to get a sexually transmitted infection. Herpes and Hepatitis B, for example, can be spread through non-sexual contact. Genital warts are typically associated with the sexually transmitted disease/infection called human papilloma virus or HPV. Diagnoses of specific diseases/infections should only be obtained through a licensed clinician such as your primary health care provider.

    Because of the symptoms you were having, it is very important for you to see a licensed clinician and get testing and treatment. You and your health are worth it! We hope this information answers the questions you had, but if it doesn’t or if something doesn’t quite make sense, please don’t hesitate to email or call us again. We are confident that it won’t take us so long to respond next time!

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kay —

I was diagnosed with gonorrhea by my obgyne but I haven’t been sexually active in over six years. How is this possible?

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    CollageCenter

    Kay – Hi! We haven’t forgotten about you! Thanks for reaching out. Sorry it took so long for us to get back to you! By now, maybe you’ve had your questions answered. Just in case you haven’t found the answers you were looking for, I do have some information to share with you that I hope you will find helpful.
    You may have another STD/STI besides Gonorrhea that has just not been diagnosed. Several sexually transmitted infections such as HIV, syphilis and human papilloma virus (HPV) can lie dormant in the body for years. Gonorrhea typically does not lie dormant for years as it is a bacteria and not a virus. There are many differences between bacteria and viruses. If you have been given this diagnosis, it is important for your health that you have it treated. One of the tough things about Gonorrhea is that people who are infected with it don’t always know it until damage to their bodies has already occurred. Gonorrhea has several very serious complications; one is the development of pelvic inflammatory disease (PID) which causes tubal scarring and ectopic pregnancy. Don’t wait to have this treated, get in as soon as possible to see your primary care provider. You and your health are worth it!

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      Alice —

      I am a little confused when you say women can carry gonorrhea or HIV dormant for years in their body. Does this mean that if will not show up even if tested for it?
      I just was diagnosed with gonorrhea. I am married and have been with my husband for 5 yrs. I’ve been pregnant twice in the last 4 yrs and have had about 4 std panels done all negative. Would it be possible that it was in me and just never came out in the test? I am so confused. My husband went to take a test as he says he has not cheated on me. I had one year in my dumb younger years where I was extremely promiscuous and behaved very recklessly, but this was about 16 yrs ago, can it come back to haunt me now? Is this possible? Your reply would be greatly appreciated!

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        CollageCenter

        Hi Alice,

        There are different incubation periods for STD’s, and though you have the disease, you wouldn’t be able to pick it up in a test sometimes if it’s too early to detect. I believe gonorrhea is pretty fast, 2-7 days. You have gonorrhea the whole time, but in those first days a test wouldn’t detect it, and after that many people still don’t know they have it because it’s asymptomatic (have no symptoms). Sometimes you need to ask what STD’s you’ve been tested for, but with pregnancy, I know they always test for chlamydia and gonorrhea – and would of showed a positive result if you would of had it. If you and your husband are totally monogamous with each other and have been, I would be really boggled on how you acquired it. There might be a possibility of a “false positive” test result, in which case you could ask to be retested.

        HIV’s incubation period is longer and can take sometimes 2-6 months before it’s detected from a test. Yet all the while you do have the disease and can pass it around. After people are infected with HIV, there is a latent phase in which the virus replicates at very low levels and you have no symptoms or very mild ones. When the virus increases in your body and your immune system is badly damaged, that’s when you have AID’s and you cannot fight off diseases.

        So once you have these STD’s, you have them and it can be passed. The dormant you are talking about may be the symptoms part but both these would show up positive on tests after their certain incubation periods.

        I don’t think this gonorrhea is from 16 years ago, as the tests would of caught that. And again if you and your husband have been and are totally monogamous with each other, the only other thing I could think of is a “false positive” and encourage you to talk to your medical provider about this possibility.

        I hope this helps some! And I hope you find the answers you are looking for.

        Collage Medical Team

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Anonymous —

I get cold sores from my mother and I have a few questions
1. Is it hereditary and if my wife has children can they get it from me
2. Can they break out in the gentital areas by oral
3. does this mean I have herpies

Thanks you

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    CollageCenter

    Anonymous – Hi! We haven’t forgotten about you! Thanks for reaching out. Sorry it took so long for us to get back to you! By now, maybe you’ve had your questions answered. Just in case you haven’t gotten the answers you were looking for, I do have some information to share with you that I hope you will find helpful. I’m a nurse, so bear with me, most of us like to “talk” ☺
    It is important to understand how herpes is spread. It is spread through contact with lesions (open sores on the skin), mucous & secretions (genital or oral). This is not just referring to sexual contact. Any contact with mucous or secretions such as kissing, eating from the same utensil & using the same damp towel can spread the virus. It also spreads itself through a process called “shedding.” Shedding can happen anytime and does occur regularly with herpes infection. During shedding, the sleeping herpes virus travels to the surface of normal looking skin or skin with lesions and it leaves itself on the surface of the skin. It is not spread through your DNA (genes) and is not hereditary. It has to be passed or transmitted to another individual; it is not something people are hard-wired with at birth.
    In the past, people rarely got genital herpes through the oral route. That is no longer true. More and more, genital herpes is being caused by the virus that used to be most associated with oral herpes.
    There are a lot of tests available to determine whether or not a person has herpes and what kind of herpes they have. If you could have been exposed to the virus through the contact outlined above, it is important for you to get all the facts so you can make informed decisions about testing and treatment.
    That pretty much sums it up. We want to thank you again for taking the time to email us and trusting us enough to ask the hard questions of life. We really value that. If, after reading this, something doesn’t make sense or it brings up another question, please don’t hesitate to email or call. We are confident that it won’t take us so long to respond next time! Thanks again.

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shof —

hi i am a grl and i had just tested a week a go but i havent seen my result yet.i thnk i have herpes because i have the symptoms and i thnk my partner has it to. can we still have a normal life?i have learn through internet that the virus wont go away and the disease is not curable.does this mean every time we do sex our herpes gets worse each time?is the disease deadly?

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    CollageCenter

    shof – One of the problems with herpes is that there are often no symptoms or they are very mild symptoms that go unnoticed or are often mistaken for another illness. So, someone could be actively carrying herpes, not know and then go on to infect others. When symptoms do appear, herpes will show up as a blister or group of blisters (also known as vesicles) around the mouth, genitals or rectum. The blisters usually take about 4 days to appear after an exposure. Then the blisters break open, leaving painful ulcers that remain for 2-4 weeks. They usually heal without leaving scars. This process is referred to as “an outbreak.” The first outbreak is usually worse than later ones. Also, repeat outbreaks are very common during the first year of infection. As time passes, the frequency and severity of outbreaks usually lessens (this is not true for people who already have a weakened immune system, such as those who are HIV positive, the very elderly and children).
    Herpes is not curable. Once a person has it, they have it. Herpes lives in the nerves and can travel along the nerve pathways in the body and show up on other parts of the body such as the eyes, hands, buttocks, thigh and groin. Herpes is still treatable with anti-viral medications that can be taken daily. Herpes is never gone; it just goes to sleep so to speak. The medical words for that are latent or dormant. So, if someone has herpes and it is not treated or controlled, they are really putting their partner at risk and themselves because the partner can then pass even more active infection back.
    You asked if you could have a normal life. I guess that depends on your definition of normal. **Here it is important to think of the future, which is hard to do when a person’s hormones are really singing to them!** At Collage, we know that the healthiest and best sex occurs inside the boundaries of a one man, one woman husband/wife relationship. Normal, in that sense, is being able to express the love that’s felt in that relationship anytime that couple wants to do so. The Centers for Disease Control recommend that if an infected person is having an outbreak or other symptoms of herpes are present, that person should abstain from sexual activity. It is important to know that even without symptoms a person can still infect their partners. Proper and consistent use of latex condoms can reduce the risk of genital herpes, however, outbreaks and thus transmission (actually passing herpes on) can occur in areas that are not covered by a condom. So think 10 years down the road…you and your hubby are really feeling the love, but wait, you’re having an outbreak. That reality is not ideal, but it would be the normal for a person with herpes.
    Herpes infection can be passed from mother to baby resulting in potential infant fatality. So, yes it can be deadly. Other rare complications from herpes include: blindness, swelling of the brain (encephalitis) and inflammation of the linings of the brain (meningitis). Herpes can also cost people in their relationships because of the perceptions associated with having a sexually transmitted infection, so it is valuable to know how to communicate about herpes with your loved ones.
    Ok, that is A LOT of information, so please don’t hesitate to comment again, email, or call if you have other questions or if something just doesn’t make sense. We are confident that it won’t take us so long to respond next time!

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anonymous —

Me and my boyfriend have lost our virginities with each other, we havent had any other sexual partners, and we havent kissed anyone who has an STI either, me and my boyfriend have had sex without condoms several times, i was just wondering if we could contract an STI at all considering the above info?

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Mandy —

Is it possible if you know that you and your partner are both clean, and we have intercourse a lot that we could end up getting an STD. Even though we were both clean to begin with?

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CollageCenter

Anonymous and Mandy,

Hi from Collage 🙂 We got your email and want you to know that you have made a good choice to reach out and get accurate information so you and your boyfriend can each take care of your own sexual health. The only way to be sure you don’t contract a sexually transmitted disease or infection (STD/STI) is to remain sexually pure until you are able to be in a long-term, monogamous relationship (marriage). Even though you have chosen to express yourself sexually, you both can still make a commitment toward purity going forward; this is the best way to protect your reproductive health as well as your minds and your hearts. The challenge with high school relationships is that they usually don’t last very long. At Collage, we know that the average high school relationship only lasts about 6 months. An important question you each need to ask yourselves is, do you really believe that your partner has only been sexually expressive with you? This is a really big trust issue.

At best, you are choosing to take some huge risks. Even if you don’t get pregnant, which is very possible even with protection, this is going to affect you emotionally and mentally. We want to empower you to choose the harder, better path over the easier, lesser path. If your boyfriend is not willing to honor you now, chances are that he won’t honor you later. The better question to ask yourself is what do I want out of life? Do I want… just to not get an STI or do I want something more? At Collage, we believe that you deserve the best!! The last thing I want to share with you is that we know, from evidence, that married couples, committed only to each other, who save themselves for one another, really do have the best sex. I hope this has been helpful. If something doesn’t quite make sense or it brings up other questions, please don’t hesitate to email again or call anytime! We are here for you, and we believe in you!!

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    Hina —

    Hey I was wondering if me and my partner are still at risk for getting an STD or any other diseases we’ve been together for 2 years now we were both virgins and we both got checked and we were clean and we have a kid on the way I feel like we are not at risk at all but I just want to make sure

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      CollageCenter

      Hi Hina,

      Thanks for your email. And congratulations on having a baby on the way!

      Our nurse is out of the office today and I wanted to respond to you as soon as possible. Since your question is a common one we are asked, I thought I’d just post a previous response. Hope this helps!!

      STD’s are passed sexually (vaginal, anal, oral sex). A person would have to have sex or sexual contact with another person who is infected with and STD to be infected themselves.

      Think of a virgin couple who are about to get married. They will most likely have sex on their wedding night and will not be at risk for acquiring an STD at all. They can have sex as much and freely as they like with each other all their lives and never have to fear getting an STD. So remember, just having sex does not pass STD’s, you have to have sex with someone who is infected. If you and your boyfriend were virgins and not had any other form of sexual contact with others, you wouldn’t of passed and STD to each other.

      The Collage Medical Team

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        Lizard739 —

        My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years and we were both virgins when we started dating. We’ve both only ever had sex with each other and neither of us has cheated. I had my yearly chlamydia test and it came back positive. It is it possible that it came from us going back and forth between anal and vaginal sex without washing up in between? He swears up and down that he didn’t cheat and I really want to believe him because he’s never been the type of person to do something like that…

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          CollageCenter

          Hi Lizard739,

          You have to have sex with someone who is infected with chlamydia to get it. I know lots of times people think sex is only vaginal sex but STD’s are spread through vaginal, anal and oral sex. Even some are spread through skin to skin contact. So I would ask both you and your partner if you’ve ever had any sexual contact with anyone else prior to each other. There is also a chance that you had a false positive test and could get retested. Otherwise, to answer your question more directly, I don’t think it’s because of the anal to vaginal sex without washing up in between. Chlamydia could be in both the anus and vagina but only if you got infected from someone else, we don’t just carry it. I would however, really caution you on anal sex. I found a great site that helps explain some of the risks that I’ll link to. Some of the points they make:

          General health risks:
          * Unlike the vagina, the tissues of the anus are not stretchy. This means that the anus can easily tear, which puts the receiving partner in danger of anal abscesses, hemorrhoids, or fissures (a very large tear).
          * Anal sex can weaken your muscles down there, which makes it hard to hold feces.
          * The anus is full of bacteria. Consequently, the giving partner is especially prone to infections.

          Pregnancy:
          * You cannot get pregnant from the act alone. However, semen could still leak into the vagina and impregnate the woman.

          STDs:
          * The fragile nature of the anal tissue makes it easier for STDs to enter into the bloodstream.
          * Unprotected anal sex is one of the primary ways in which HIV is spread. If you don’t already know, HIV (Human Immunodeficiency Virus) can eventually lead to AIDS!
          * Recent studies have linked anal sex to anal cancer. HPV (Human Papillomavirus) is closely associated with anal cancer, which is frequently spread through anal sex.
          * The use of a latex condom certainly lowers the chances of contracting an STD. However, even perfect condom use does not completely eliminate the risk of STDs. In fact, the condom is more susceptible to leakage, breakage, and slippage during anal intercourse.

          You can also talk to your healthcare provider and they may provide more information. Sorry this has been so confusing for you, I hope you get the answers you need. Good job taking the first step and asking questions!

          Collage Medical Team

          Link to website: https://www.medinstitute.org/2012/06/anal-sex-a-dangerous-trend-3-2/

Tonio —

Myth #11 you wrote yourself: “The best prevention is to have a monogamous marriage relationship; ONE partner for life.” Marriage and monogamy are no prevention against STDs, since no one can ever be 100% sure that their spouse is really monogamous. The ONLY prevention is total abstinence: ZERO partners for life. If you think you’re protected from STDs because you’re married and monogamous, you’re only fooling yourself.

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    CollageCenter

    Tonio, thanks for your comment. We have gone back into that post to clarify that sentence to read “The best prevention is to have a mutually monogamous marriage relationship; ONE partner for life” to address your concern that while one partner can be in a monogamous relationship the other may not. This assumes that both partners have not engaged in sexual activity prior to their relationship, or that they have been tested and determined to be STD free. We hope this clarification satisfactorilly address your concerns. Thanks again for taking the time to comment.

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anonymous —

My boyfriend and I lost our virginity to each other. He has only received oral sex from one other person but besides that we have not come in contact at all with anybody else sexually. He always wears a condom, however is there ever a possibility of us ever getting an STD?

Also, the other day he gave me oral sex (with no dental dam), and he had a sore in his mouth. We realized after this was a bad idea. However this isn’t the first time this has happened (he has braces so he has little cuts sometimes). Will he get any diseases from this?

Thanks!

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    CollageCenter

    Based on the information you have given, yes, it is possible that both of you could have a STD. Any sexual contact with a person that has a STD can result in contracting that disease and as we mentioned in the post, you can get an STD from oral sex (Myth #1) and condoms do not protect agains STDs (Myth #2). We don’t want to scare you, but if you want to be sure that you are both STD free, getting tested is the only way to know for sure.

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Flip —

I gave oral sex to a man 3 days ago. He call me and ask if I have any STD’s as his penis is sore. No discharge or burning when peeing. He’s really worried but I’ sure I have no STD”s Can I pass STD with oral if there are no sores on his penis or in my mouth. No semin entered my mouth and has not for many many months.

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    CollageCenter

    Hi! I’m so glad you reached out to get accurate information to protect your health. I also think it says a lot about the kind of person you are that you are inquiring on behalf of your partner as well as yourself. I appreciate that you are willing to ask personal questions for the sake of someone else and their health. At Collage, we care about you and want you to enjoy the very best life possible.

    The short answer to your question is: Yes, there is a chance you passed an STI (sexually transmitted infection) along to him, even with no sores in your mouth or on his genitals & even with no semen entering your mouth (for many, many months). The way it could have been passed is simply from your mouth to the lining of his urethra-the opening at the tip of the male penis. You mentioned that you are sure you do not have an STD. Unless you were tested before providing oral sex to this man and were free of all 25 or more STIs out there (the number varies slightly depending on how ‘STI’ is defined) how can you be sure you do not have an STD/STI? Or how can he be sure? Maybe he has a sexually transmitted infection that is just now showing up in the form of soreness.

    Many of the STIs do not have symptoms. You can have one (or more), not know it, and pass it along to someone else and vice versa. So, while it seems like a good thing that he doesn’t have any discharge from his penis or burning with urination, that does not mean he does not have a sexually transmitted infection. The fact of the matter is that providing and receiving oral sex is a really risky behavior. Collage would highly recommend that you each see your Primary Care Provider and get tested for the full panel of STIs. Like I mentioned earlier, we care about you, not just your health. We would welcome the opportunity to talk with you further if that is something you might be interested in. We are open M-W 9-5 and Th 10-5. We are closed on Fridays. Thanks again for contacting Collage I hope this is helpful to you!

    Dionne Moore, RN

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jasmine Craig

Ok so on may20th,2014 I found out that I tested positive for chlamydia so ever since then I haven’t had any sexual relations until June6th,2014 we used protection and after that I haven’t done anything with no one else so I’m just wondering if I still have it if I haven’t had any sexual relations for about 8weeks now?

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    CollageCenter

    You said you had tested positive for chlamydia but you didn’t say whether you had received any treatment. Just stopping sex for a period of time does not cure the disease. Unfortunately we aren’t able to give you the answer you are looking for with the information you have provided. The only way to know for sure you are STD free would be to have another test.

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Anonymous —

Hi im here to ask if I have any stds or stis me and my boyfriend are both virgins in every way oral, dry humping and penetration but I’m scared that I might have something because I opened up to him and did oral and he has done me and dry humping and whenever he gets sun burned on his lip he gets herpes and I used to get them whenever I was stressed out or sun burned as well, but I’ve received medicine for it so I won’t have the sore…. Can he have an std even if he has been a virgin and any information you can give me with that to lighten up the situation would be great
Thanks!

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    CollageCenter

    Hi from Collage and thank you for taking the time to submit your question!

    You asked if you could have and STD or an STI and it’s important for you to know that the only sure way to know is to be tested or screened through a health clinic. Your primary care provider can also assist you with this process as well as answer any other medical questions you might have. I can share with you though some basic knowledge and facts about STDs and how they can be transmitted.
    There are STDs that can be transmitted orally; there is a chance of having an STD such as herpes that can be transmitted orally even if the other person does not have any symptoms at the time of contact.
    Cold sores on the mouth can be a symptom of herpes, which can be transmitted sexually both orally or through oral-genital or genital-genital contact. Remember that herpes can be spread even when there are no symptoms present. If you would like more information about herpes, check out http://www.cdc.gov/std/Herpes/STDFact-Herpes.htm.
    The only way to be sure you don’t contract an STD/STI is to remain sexually pure. It is important for you to realize that sex is more than just intercourse. There are a number of people who have decided to be “technical virgins” and think they will still be healthy. They’ll take part in all sorts of other behaviors, including oral contact. Taking part in sexual activity of any kind causes arousal, which makes it difficult to refrain from sexual intercourse. I want to encourage you to look at the sexual choices you’re making and ask yourself if the risks of being sexually expressive are better or worse than the benefits of sexual purity. Choosing sexual purity is not easy, especially when we live in a “hook-up” culture. However, it is possible and it starts in your heart and involves every thought, desire and action.
    We encourage you to make the best decisions for yourself that will help you reach your goals and dreams, because you deserve the best!

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Sarah lee ann —

Hello im 23 n recently found out that i have chlamydia … I’ve been with the same person for 3 years .. He swear on his son they he never stepped out in the years we have been togther… Is it possible that he or i could have had chlamydia befor we met each other years ago ? Or does it mean hes not telling the truth and been with someone else ? Can two people whos had sex with each other for over a period of time and no one else get an STD ?? HELPPP plzzzz

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    CollageCenter

    Hi Sarah, Sounds like you’ve got a lot of things that you’re thinking through. We’ll sure do our best to help.
    First, it’s important you know that anyone who has sex can get chlamydia through unprotected vaginal, anal, or oral sex. So that means, if you or your boyfriend have ever been sexually expressive with anyone prior to your relationship, it is possible one or both of you contracted an STD and were not aware of it. Most people who have chlamydia have no symptoms. And if you do have symptoms, they may not appear until several weeks after you have sex with an infected partner.
    To answer your last question, it’s highly unlikely that two people who have sex with only each other and have never had sex (including oral or anal) with anyone else to develop chlamydia.
    The only way to avoid STDs is to not have vaginal, anal, or oral sex. If you are sexually active, the best thing that you can do is be in a long-term mutually monogamous relationship (marriage) with a partner who has been tested and has negative STD test results.

    We would recommend that your boyfriend be tested for chlamydia and begin treatment, just like the link below advises. It’s got lots of other helpful info as well. http://www.cdc.gov/std/chlamydia/STDFact-Chlamydia.htm
    I hope you find this helpful!

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Amanda —

Hey! Between august 2012 and September 2013 I went through a really bad phase. I’d get drunk every few weeks/months and have sex with someone without protection or oral. I feel extremely stupid now about the whole thing as I only realised a few days ago that I could have gotten an sti. I have an appointment booked for next week but my question is a bit of a scary one and I hope you will not judge. I have a 2 year old sweet little girl and I’m freaking out now that she may have caught my infection (if present, of course) as we sleep in the same bed. We also shower together as she’s afraid of going in alone and I’ve often caught her washing herself with my scrunchie bath ball. So I’m panicking now whether she could have caught it from the scrunchie or sleeping in my bed. I hope you reply ASAP.. Thank you

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    CollageCenter

    Hi Amanda – Thanks for writing in with your concern. We certainly don’t judge you, not at all! A good mama would have concern. I give you huge props for just being a mama of a two year old, I know it’s a wonderful but also a crazy job! As far as your questions, if you were positive for an STI, most literature out their states that STI’s are spread most often by having vaginal, anal, or oral sex with someone who is infected (sharing secretions). Most experts would say there would be little concern in the use of towels, toilet seats, and washcloths when it comes to spreading chlamydia, syphillis, gonorrhea, humanpaillomavirus, herpes, or HIV. You said you have an appointment scheduled, I would make sure to talk to your medical provider at your first or follow-up visit about your concerns with your daughter. Lastly, one of my co-workers posted this on our collage center facebook page and I hope it encourages you 🙂

    Anne Lano RN
    Nurse Manager

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Concerned —

My girlfriend and I have been having unprotected sex for over 6-8 months. She recently was tested for stds and came back clean on all counts. I got a test just as a precaution and am waiting the results. I gave blood and urine. I also asked an ex of mine whom I trust if she had been tested recently. I asked her because she is the last person I have had sex with, (in october) which was unprotected and I ejaculated inside of her. She said she was tested in January and was clean. What is the likelihood that my std test will come back clean?

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    CollageCenter

    Hi Concerned – From what it sounds like, with your current girlfriend coming back negative with her STI testing and your previous girlfriend also coming back negative, it would seem likely that your test would also come back negative. But keep in mind if you’ve had any sexual activity (oral, anal, vaginal) with any others in the past, it increases your risk of contracting an STI. It takes about 5-7 days to get results back, so maybe you already have results? Good job getting tested and please let us know if you have any other questions or concerns!

    Anne Lano RN
    Nurse Manager

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Rahul —

My self and my partner never had sex, not even with others. No physical contact. We wish to have oral sex now. Can we get std’s?? pls help me.

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    CollageCenter

    Hi Rahul,

    If you and your partner have never had sex or physical contact with each other or others, it is probably unlikely you’d get and STD from each other. You can however get STD’s through having oral sex with anyone who is infected. I would recommend waiting, I know, sounds crazy but a lot of good and wonderful things are worth waiting for 🙂

    Thanks for the question,
    Anne Lano RN
    Nurse Manager

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Nicole —

So my husband (before we got married) had sex with multiple girls, but he tested clean for any STD’s. I’ve only had sex with him. Can we still get stds?

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    CollageCenter

    Hi Nicole,

    Thanks for the question. The only things I can think of is to make sure he got tested for the full panel of STD’s and to keep in mind that STD’s have different incubation periods (once you’re infected, to when it would show up on a lab test). The longest one, HIV, can take up to 6 months to show up on a lab report. So, if his last sexual partner was a year ago and he recently got tested, he’s clear. If his last other sexual partner was less then 6 months ago, he’d probably want to get tested 6 months after that to be all clear. I would think, most likely, if your husband tested clean for any STD’s, and you’re in a monogamous marriage with each other, you’re golden. Love, enjoy, forgive (repeat) – that’s what I keep telling myself to do!

    Anne Lano RN
    Nurse Manager

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Kay —

This may have already been asked, but my boyfriend and I have been together for five years. I have only been with him the past five years. I just went to the lady doctor and she told me that I had chlamydia. Of course I went and got the medication for it right away and called my boyfriend. He is claiming he has not cheated on me but I did not see how it is possible. I go to the gyro once a year and have been since I was 16. How would it be that I Just now had chlamydia?? I also have to add I also was told 3 years ago I had HPV and had to get that taken care of. Is he telling the truth, could I really have just now gotten it?

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    CollageCenter

    Hi Kay,

    Tough stuff you’re going through. Here’s a few things I can think of. I would ask your gynecologist if she has tested you, with each pap smear for STD’s. The basic part of a pap smear is to look for abnormal cells of the cervix to try to detect cancer or things that may lead into cancer. Lots of times, while they’re doing a pap, they will get a swab so they can test you for STD’s, but may not with each pap smear, I believe it depends on the practitioner. You should be able to call and talk to a nurse. You can have chlamydia for a long time and never know it because it’s usually asymptomatic (no symptoms) all the while working to reek havoc on your reproductive system, I’m so glad you got treated! If they have tested you (for std’s) with each pap smear, and you’re just now showing chlamydia, I would probably have a heart to heart with your boyfriend because chlamydia is a sexually transmitted disease. Remember, he also needs to get treated for chlamydia and I would highly recommend he also get tested for other STD’s. If you get treated and he doesn’t, and you are still sexually active with each other, you’ll probably be reinfected with chlamydia. I wish I could tell you more definite answers but I would start with those facts and go from there. Talk to your gynecologist or their nurse and depending on that, have a heart to heart with the boyfriend. Thanks for the question, we’ll be thinking of you!

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Liam —

I was wondering if it is possible for either me or my girlfriend to have an std?
We have both only ever been sexually active with each other, never been with another partner ( lost virginity together)

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    CollageCenter

    Hi Liam,

    If you have only been with your girlfriend sexually, you probably don’t have an sexually transmitted disease (STD). Keep in mind that STD’s can be passed if you’ve had any sexual contact, oral, anal or vaginally with others. Some can even be passed just by genital, to genital contact. Sorry to be so blunt! I think peoples definition of “sex” varies or is pretty narrow – just covering my bases! Be careful, and remember there’s always the option to wait (yes, it’s hard). But waiting to have sex till in a committed marriage, you can enjoy sex freely without worrying about STD’s, which is nice. Thanks for the question, and let us know if you have any more!

    Anne Lano, RN
    Nurse Manager

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Jay —

I have a friend who has had multiple sex partners and they contracted syphillis, can they contact other people if he made out with them. And does he also have HIV?

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    CollageCenter

    Hi Jay,

    I think what you’re asking is if they can contract Syphilis to others just by making out with them? Which yes, Syphilis is a sexually transmitted disease (STD) but it could be passed just by making out. CDC says “You can get syphilis by direct contact with a syphilis sore during vaginal, anal, or oral sex. Sores can be found on the penis, vagina, anus, in the rectum, or on the lips and in the mouth.” So if a person has direct contact with a sore, it can be passed that way. I hope your friend is getting treated! It’s really important as the sores go away, you think it’s done, all better, but it goes on to the next stages of the disease, on and on, which can be life threatening. CDC has a syphilis fact sheet on their website that has really good information on it. I’ll link below. And as for HIV, that’s a different disease, so your friend would need to get tested to see if they have HIV too. I would defiantly encourage your friend to do so! Here’s the link to the CDC fact sheet on Syphilis:
    http://www.cdc.gov/std/syphilis/stdfact-syphilis.htm

    Thanks for your question,
    Anne Lano RN
    Nurse Manager

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jo gregory —

i have been with my husband for over 7 years and have had 2 other children by him and im now pregnant again but this time the V.D.R.L came back with syphilis detected im little confused as i had a UTI and have been given antiboitics for that if all the other came back negative why did this one come back detected any idea’s

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    CollageCenter

    Hi Jo Gregory,

    That is rough! So sorry for your diagnosis of syphilis! I’m sure this is a confusing time. As always I always encourage people to talk directly to their primary care provider, if you will see them soon, write your questions down for them as sometimes it’s easy to forget in the hurried moments! As for as I know and have researched, syphilis seems to be a bit more complicated when testing for it. If you do have it, it goes in stages, and depending on the stage it’s in, can show positive or false-negative results. The next test you could have done to confirm the results would be a fluorescent treponemal antibody absorption test (FTA-ABS). There also seem to be other conditions that can cause false-positives test results too. Also, if I were with you, I’d ask if you and your husband are mutually monogamous with each other, if not, that’ s certainly another way one could get infected. Here are some links to browse more information.

    And as far as your UTI goes, the antibiotics that the doctor will probably treat the UTI but you would probably need different antibiotics to treat the syphilis. And that’s pretty important to get treated, especially if you are pregnant.

    I wish I had more black and white answers for you! We hope you heal quickly and get the answers you’re looking for.

    http://www.cdc.gov/std/syphilis/stdfact-syphilis-detailed.htm

    http://www.nlm.nih.gov/medlineplus/ency/article/003515.htm

    Anne Lano, RN
    Nurse Manager

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jo gregory —

rang the doc’s and it was a human error thank god =D

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John Matthews —

I did an sti urine test but had passed urine 25 minutes before! Will this make the test void

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    CollageCenter

    Hi John,

    Thanks for your question. It should not matter when the urine was collected for your STI test. It should still be accurate.

    Good job in getting tested!

    Kenda High, RN
    Kearney Center Director

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Sabriel —

Hi, I have been with my partner for 5 years. We have been faithful to each other. I have just taken a home test for gonorrhea and it has come out positive. He has never had any symptoms before except some that appeared a week ago which included burning when urinating and a feeling that he needs to urinate. I don’t THINK I’ve ever had any symptoms apart from I’ve had severe abdominal pain ONCE about 2 years ago, and sometimes it hurts inside my belly on the right side when we have sex, and always has done occasionally. I’ve had an ultrasound scan, but they said everything looked okay.

I must have caught it off a previous partner, and I feel terrible for it. But is it really possible that symptoms for him are just appearing now when he’s never had any before?

Thank you in advance

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    CollageCenter

    Hey! Thanks for your question. Yes, it is totally possible that your partner to just be showing symptoms now. That’s the hard thing with some of these STD’s, a lot of times they are “silent”, no symptoms. And often, people don’t go to the Doctor or get tested unless they have a reason, so a lot of these STD’s go untreated. Here’s a great fact sheet on Gonorrhea from the CDC:
    http://www.cdc.gov/std/gonorrhea/STDFact-gonorrhea.htm
    It’s great you’re getting tested and checked out! Hope that helps answer your question!

    Anne Lano RN
    Nurse Manager

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Speedy Pua —

Hi, My girfriend and I had unprotected sex in a hotel bathtub. Concerned if there were people who have used it for sex as wel before us, is it possible to acquire STD from having unprotected sex with your partner in a “pre-used” tub? Soonest answer will be highly appreciated since I am quite bothered since 3 days after, tiny itchy red bumps appeard in my body. Thanks

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Maria Martinez —

I went to check up and they said I have std cervix iris but I know I haven’t had sex with anybody else beside my partner he says he hasn’t had sex with nobody else and he wants to chek him self cause he says he’s positive he has not be with nobody else but I know I haven’t cheated please help

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    CollageCenter

    Hi Maria,

    Thanks for your question. I am so glad you are asking questions and looking for answers! So important for people to be doing that! I however can’t help you with answers to what a “STD cervix iris” thing is. I haven’t heard of it but that certainly doesn’t mean it’s not a thing or not around. I would go back to the clinic to ask questions! You can always call them and ask to speak to of of their nurses too, and try to talk to the nurse who works with the doctor or medical provider who diagnosed you.

    As fas as your partner, I would say it’s important for him to get tested if you came back positive. Some STD’s can be passed skin to skin contact, if you or your partner ever had even that kind of contact with someone who was infected then, it could of been passed that way.

    I hope that’s helped a little bit, again, good job asking questions and looking for answers! I hope you find out more about your diagnosis.

    Anne Lano RN
    Nurse Manager

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Jai Bell —

me and my girlfriend have only been with each other, she is worried she is gonna get an std and neither of us have been tested, we have had unprotected sex and want to try anal, is there any way if we are only intimate with each other we can get std’s

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    CollageCenter

    Hi Jai,

    Good questions. If you and your girlfriend have truly only been with each other sexually, then it is pretty unlikely you’d get an STD from each other. Just remember STD’s are passed through sexual contact, that’s anal, vaginal, oral sex and even genital to genital contact could spread a disease. So if either of you have had any previous sexual contact with others before, you could of been exposed then. I always say, if there’s doubt, go on in and get tested! That would probably give you the most peace of mind. And with anal sex, I would probably caution you against it. The rectum was really designed as exit only, the tissues inside the rectum are much more delicate and more easily damaged. We want you to be safe and healthy!

    Anne Lano, RN
    Nurse Manager

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worried —

Is it possible to pass on a STD to my child If I have taken a bath with my baby? i am so worried. I just found out I had trichomonas and herpes. Is it possible? How about if I didnt wash my hands fully after touching my vaginal area.

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    CollageCenter

    Hi Worried,

    I think it is very unlikely that you would of passed these infections to your baby. I believe Trichomoniasis and Herpes are labeled STD’s (Sexually Transmitted Diseases) for a reason. Meaning they are almost always spread through sexual contact, direct genital to genital contact. Here’s what ASHA (American Sexual Health Association) says about herpes “There are no documented cases of a person getting genital herpes from an inanimate object such as a toilet seat, bathtub, or towel. Herpes is a very fragile virus and does not live long on surfaces.” (link to their resource page at the end) And as far as Trichomiasis they also quote “Trich is spread through sexual contact with an infected partner: this includes penis-to-vagina intercourse or genital-to-genital contact” (link to that at the bottom too).

    I totally get being worried with your babe! But I think it’s very unlikely. Remember you can always talk to your doctor or call to talk to your doctors nurse to have your baby checked out if you are really worried. But I hope this helps you not be so worried!

    http://www.ashasexualhealth.org/stdsstis/herpes/faqs-about-herpes/

    http://www.ashasexualhealth.org/stdsstis/trichomoniasis/

    Anne Lano, RN
    Nurse Manager

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kinda worried —

Hi, I’m male, 29 years old, I’m kinda worried I’ve got STI, there’s very little discharge in my penis lately, so little I can’t even tell if it’s a pee or semen, there’s no odor also, and it doesn’t happen everytime, but it stil worries me…

my girlfriend is also having trouble getting pregnant, I’ve read that STI can cause infertility, could it be possible that one of us has STI?

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    CollageCenter

    Hi Kinda Worried,

    That is a hard place to be in. My best advice would be to go in and get tested! It’s really painless and it will give you the greatest peace of mind! You are right, having discharge for a male could be a sign of having an STD. For example, both Chlamydia and Gonorrhea both can cause discharge for a male. Here’s a few links to CDC’s facts sheets on Chlamydia and Gonorrhea that are helpful, along with other STD’s. I’d highly recommend getting tested!

    http://www.cdc.gov/std/chlamydia/stdfact-chlamydia.htm
    http://www.cdc.gov/std/gonorrhea/stdfact-gonorrhea.htm

    And you read right, sadly STI’s can cause infertility. Often these STD’s don’t have any symptoms so people don’t know they have them, and they go untreated. In women it can cause infertility by damaging the fallopian tubes, uterus and surrounding areas. Remember there could be many reasons for infertility but yes, this could be one of them. So for your girlfriend, I would recommend she get tested too. If one of you has an STD’s it’s pretty probable the other does too and both of you would need treated.

    http://www.cdc.gov/std/infertility/

    It’s great you are concerned and seeking information, and I know it’s hard, but try not to worry. Take one step at a time, get tested and go from there 🙂

    Anne Lano, RN
    Nurse Manager

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rah —

I gave my boyfriend a hsndjob.I forgot I had a small paper cut. Is it possible for me to get a STD through my hand? We are not monogamous.

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    CollageCenter

    Hi rah,

    I think usually there would be a small chance of getting a STD through a hand job. I do think it would depend on what STD we were dealing with though. Syphilis and Herpes are two that I could think of that would concern me. The CDC quotes on their site, “You can get syphilis by direct contact with a syphilis sore during vaginal, anal, or oral sex. Sores can be found on the penis, vagina, anus, in the rectum, or on the lips and in the mouth.” Also with Herpes they say, “Fluids found in a herpes sore carry the virus, and contact with those fluids can cause infection.” I always say, if there’s doubt, go and get tested. Also, considering you and your boyfriend are not in a monogamous relationship, that would put you at a higher risk of acquiring and STD. I would highly recommend getting tested. And I know I sound old school but I want you to be healthy and happy, I would encourage you to be careful and maybe think about waiting till you meet someone you want to be in a life long, committed monogamous relationship with! Crazy?! Just think about it 🙂 Thanks for your question and hope this helps a little bit!

    Links to CDC syphilis and Herpes:
    http://www.cdc.gov/std/syphilis/stdfact-syphilis.htm
    http://www.cdc.gov/std/herpes/stdfact-herpes.htm

    Anne Lano, RN
    Nurse Manager

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rah —

Typo- Hand job

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vianna —

This may sound dumb but
. Me and my partner have been together for 6yrs. I have never had sexual contact with anyone but him. He never leaves the house and no one visits. Can a std still form even though we’ve been only with each other?

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    CollageCenter

    Thanks for your question, no dumb questions here! STD’s are transferred through sexual contact. If you’ve only been with each other, you’re most likely safe. But if you and your partner had any sexual activity with anyone before each other, you could of possibly been exposed that way. And remember that can be things like oral sex, even genital to genital contact. So if that’s the case, one or both have had sexual activity with previous people, I’d recommend getting tested. If you have another questions or concerns please feel free to call us here at Collage, we’d love to chat with you. 308-234-9880

    Anne Lano RN
    Nurse Manager

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Katie —

Ive looked up this question so many times and its never answered how I ask it. Me and my boyfriend have been together for a while now , had protected sex and just recently I gave him unprotected oral. He went and got tested the other day and his results arent back yet. But my question still is , if all of his results come back negative, does that make me in the clear too because hes the ONLY person ive ever touched sexually or had sexual contact with. Ive never had sex with any other guys or given oral ever except to my current boyfriend now.

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    CollageCenter

    Hi Katie,

    Thanks for your question, sorry you haven’t gotten as direct answers as you’ve wanted! I’ll try to answer your question as direct and best I can! I would say if he is the only person you’ve had sexual contact with and he comes back clear for STD’s, then you’d be clear too. You just need to see what he’s been tested for. For example, here we test for Chlamydia and Gonorrhea, but there is a full-panel STD test I would recommend for him if he’s previously been sexually active and if that’s what you’re going off of to see if you have an STD. Hope this helps and let us know if you have any other questions!

    Anne Lano RN
    Nurse Manager

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Lena —

In March of this year I was tested and found out I was given Chlamydia by a man who raped me. The doctor gave me antibiotics and said wait 6-8 weeks before I have sex. Well my fiancé and I didn’t do that. Tomorrow I have another test and I’m terrified that I’ll have it again. Is it possible that I still have it?

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    CollageCenter

    Hi Lena,

    First of all I am so sorry that happened to you. My heart goes out to you, I hope you get the healing you need physically, emotionally and spiritually. I know I’m answering this question a bit late, I’m so sorry! Here at our clinic we give a single dose of antibiotics and then I tell people that it can take 7-10 days for the medicine to fully knock out all the chlamydia and to wait to be sexually active to prevent spreading the disease. I know the CDC says to wait 7 days after a single dose or 7 day dose to prevent spreading disease. I’m not sure where the 6-8 weeks came from, maybe you could ask your doctor or call your doctors nurse? Depending on when you when you and your fiancé had sex after you were infected would depend on if you would of possibly given it to him, and then him back to you. I’m sorry but I would need more details to help answer your question. Either way though, if you are positive, it’s easily treatable! I’m sure you already have your answer but don’t despair if you are positive, just treat it, have your fiancé treated too. Please let me know if you have another questions. Write or call us here at Collage.

    Anne Lano RN
    Nurse Manager

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Mrs. Watson —

I’m not sure what to think this is or if it’s anything at all. I have not been sexually active for over a month, so the smell is not from sexual intercourse. I have a mirena iud, so I’m not sure if that could be involved either. I have been getting cramps that are almost like period cramps, but not quiet, which is unusual regardless, because I’ve never gotten period cramps before, but they are in my pelvic area. I just had a baby in October 2014, but I have had several symptoms of pregnancy also, but my doctor took a test a few weeks ago and said they were side effects of the mirena. I also have been having a chlorine-like smell that I can smell even through my clothes and in my underwear when I take them off. I’ve had this smell for about two months, but I’m not sure what it is, and the cramps started a few weeks ago. Not really any changes in discharge as to consistency or color, but I’ve had a slight amountoccasionally since I got the mirena. The smell isn’t really a bad smell, just not normal. And I even stopped using bleach for the past two weeks to see if that could be it. Only have been wearing cotton underwear as well per suggestion. Any ideas what it could be the cause of the pain or the odd smell??

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    CollageCenter

    Hi Mrs. Watson,

    Oh my, sorry for all your troubles! I wish I could answer you or give you better direction but I feel as a nurse, this is out side my knowledge base and scope of practice! I would recommend you go back to the doctor and if the doctor you saw didn’t give you the answers you needed, you can always try a different one. Sometimes I try to write my questions down cause I know that time can go fast and then you think of all your questions after the visit. I hope you get some relief and the answers you need!

    Anne Lano, RN
    Nurse Manager

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blabla —

my partner has use used condom on me for about 10 to 15 second i immediately went to clean me. how far is it risky for me? there was no cut and fluid spill he has just wrapped the condom in his finger and inserted it anally for 10 to 15 second. please help me

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    CollageCenter

    Hi blabla,

    I hope I’m understanding your question correctly. Your partner used, and re-used a condom on you anally? I would say any form of sexual contact, especially with a used or unused condom puts you at risk for STD’s. Condoms are not 100% effective in preventing pregnancy or disease. If this is a concern of yours, I would definitely recommend you get tested. I also caution people with anal sexual activity. The anus has much more delicate tissue, more absorbent. You sound concerned, if it’s an STD you’re concerned about, I’d go get tested. As fas as damage to your anus, you are probably okay but need to be careful! Hope I was able to help a little bit.

    Anne Lano RN
    Nurse Manager

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Megan —

I have a question. My boyfriend was recently diagnosed with Hep B after becoming very ill. He lost his appetite, lost a lot of weight & was sleeping all the time. His eyes & skin then became very yellow. He was admitted to the hospital for many tests & the original thought was that it was from meds, but he ended up coming back positive for Hep B. I never thought this would happen. I was shocked. I was then also tested and came back negative. My boyfriend did have previous partners before me, but I was a virgin when we met. We have been having unprotected sex for 15 years. I was given the Hep B vaccine for work after we’d been together for 5 years. My question is: Is it possible that he could of contracted Hep B before we began dating & me never contract it during 5 years of unprotected & non-vaccinated years? Or did my boyfriend likely contract this during our relationship?

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Sarah —

Hi, I think I have gonorrhea I’m having every symptom so far. I made an appointment for the next day. And I have a small child I was wondering if bathing with her would give it to her? I’m so worried about it.

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    CollageCenter

    Hi Sarah,

    We get this kind of question a lot. From what I’ve researched, it would have to be just about the perfect, perfect situation to get an Sexually Transmitted Disease (STD) thought bathing, sharing a wash cloth, toilet seat…ect. I think you’d have to have direct contact with your genital area or wherever the STD is and then immediate direct contact with an open sore or genitals of another person. Even then it would still have to be just the right situation to infect someone else. I think your child should be okay, but if you have further questions or concerns I’d encourage you to talk to a doctor about it and I’m sure they could help you further. Thanks for your question and I hope this helps so you aren’t so worried!

    Anne Lano, RN
    Nurse Manager

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Anonymous —

What if you have no std and your partner has no std too and both of you is first time having a sex (oral or intercourse) will you still have a std?

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    CollageCenter

    Hey There,

    I would say if it’s both your first time having sexual contact of any sort and both of you do not have an STD, than you would not infect each other with an STD just by having sex. You would need to have sexual contact with someone who is infected with and STD to be infected yourself. I just caution people to be careful because the more sexual partners you have, the higher the risk of getting infected. Thanks for your question and hope this helps!

    Anne Lano, RN
    Nurse Manager

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Julia —

Me and my boyfriend lost our virginity to eachother and neither of us have had sexual interaction with any other person besides eachother, have had unprotected sex. Are we at risk of any std’s, if we have only ever been with eachother?

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    CollageCenter

    Hi Julia,

    If you’ve only ever had sexual contact (anal, vaginal, oral) with each other then you would not get an STD from each other. Sexually Transmitted Diseases (STD’s) are transmitted through sexual contact but you would need to have contact with a person who has been infected with an STD to be infected yourself. STD’s are often passed around so much because a lot of STD’s don’t have any symptoms so people aren’t getting tested and treated. Many people are infected, don’t know it and then are passing it to anyone they have sexual contact with. Thanks for your question and hope this helps and clarifies for you a bit!

    Anne Lano, RN
    Nurse Manager

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David Barrett —

Hi my name is David and i have a pregnant girlfriend that is having a yellow discharge i think that i might of giving her a std or a sti because i had sex with someone els but i wan for a test and came back all ok so what dose that mean plz help i would hate to think that i but my unborn child at risk

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    CollageCenter

    Hi David,

    I would guess if you came back clear of STD’s, you would not have given her one. If there is concern she has an STD I would highly recommend telling she tell her doctor and get tested. Also if you and your girlfriend are having other sexual partners, it’s important to get tested routinely. There is some discharge that women might get with pregnancy that is normal. Other discharge that would not be normal or good would be: itching, burning, foul oder, fever – those could indicate and infection, these are all things you’d want to discuss with your doctor. Here’s a great link to the CDC’s page on STD’s and pregnancy:

    http://www.cdc.gov/std/pregnancy/stdfact-pregnancy.htm

    A little section from that page:
    How do STDs affect a pregnant woman and her baby?
    STDs can complicate pregnancy and may have serious effects on both a woman and her developing baby. Some of these problems may be seen at birth; others may not be discovered until months or years later. In addition, it is well known that infection with an STD can make it easier for a person to get infected with HIV1. Most of these problems can be prevented if the mother receives regular medical care during pregnancy. This includes tests for STDs starting early in pregnancy and repeated close to delivery, as needed.

    Thanks for your question, I hope this helps!
    Anne Lano, RN
    Nurse Manager

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anonymous —

This may sound like a silly question, but if my boyfriend and I have never had sex with anyone before (we’re both virgins) and we have sex with each other, is there somehow a risk of getting an STD? Someone had told me it was possible and I just wanted to make sure. Please answer soon, thank you!!

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    CollageCenter

    Hey,

    Not a silly question and actually a common one we get. STD’s are passed sexually (vaginal, anal, oral sex). A person would have to have sex or sexual contact with another person who is infected with an STD to be infected themselves.

    Think of a virgin couple who are about to get married. They will most likely have sex on their wedding night and will not be at risk for acquiring and STD at all. They can have sex as much and freely as they like with each other all their lives and never have to fear getting an STD. So remember, just having sex does not pass STD’s, you have to have sex with someone who is infected.

    So if you and your boyfriend were virgins and not had any other form of sexual contact with others, you wouldn’t of passed an STD to each other. I know STD’s are a scary thing to think of, that’s why I always recommend people just prolong sex a bit till they find that one person they want to commit to in a long term monogamous relationship with and then you’re free to enjoy sex with out worrying! I know, old school but something to consider! 🙂

    Hope this helps!

    The Collage Medical Team

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Dee —

Hi. My boyfriend and I have been in a monogamous relationship for over 4 years. I got tested before we were sexually active, and my results came up clean. He too had clean results. We live together and have unprotected sex, and neither of us has ever had any symptoms of an STD in those 4 years. I’ve been reading online about the dormancy of the symptoms of STDs and have freaked myself out into thinking I somehow have something!

What are the possibilities of us both having asymptomatic STDs in the 4 years we’ve been sexually active? There have been no warts, blisters, itching, burning, etc. for either of us. If one of us had an STD, wouldn’t it be most likely for at least one of us to display symptoms at some point?

Thanks!

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    CollageCenter

    Hi Dee,

    Thanks for your question. If you both got tested prior to your relationship and were clean, then you wouldn’t be giving each other STD’s. You are right in reading that STD’s can and often are asymptomatic (have no symptoms). For girls especially, they can have an STD’s and not know it while it can reek some havoc on her reproductive system. That’s why it’s so important for people who are sexually active, especially people who have had multiple partners get tested.

    Remember just having sex, or lots of sex won’t give you an STD. You have to have sex with someone who is infected with and STD to be infected yourself. Think of a married couple who are in a committed monogamous relationship, and they both do not have STD’s. They can have sex as freely and often as they want and never have to worry about STD’s.

    So yes, for you and your boyfriend. If you were both clean before your relationship and are and have been monogamous with each other these last 4 years, I would think the probability of you guys having an STD are very little. As far as symptoms, people with STD’s can have them with no symptoms for long periods of time!

    Hope that helps!

    The Collage Medical Team

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Will —

So a girl slept in my bed yesterday and might have an STD. She slept with pants and a shirt on but used my blanket. I took my girlfriend on the bed and fingered her and might have touched the blanket, however before fingering her i did wash my hands. Could she have gotten an STD?

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    CollageCenter

    Hi Will,

    I think the probability of your girlfriend getting and STD in this particular circumstance is very, very small. We’ve gotten similar questions about this, people sharing towels, luffas and such. In these circumstances, which would be more likely in these than yours, it’d have to be just the absolute perfect contact to be infected this way. It’s very rare.

    Sexually transmitted diseases (STD’s) are usually passed from direct sexual contact (vaginal, oral, anal) of an infected person to another person.

    Glad you are concerned and asking questions, keep that up!
    Hope this helps!

    The Collage Medical Team

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A —

I broke up with my long term boyfriend of 6 years about 10 months ago and I have slept with two people since. I have been only seeing/sleeping with the second guy I slept with, since I broke up with my ex boyfriend, over the past 2/3 months. I recently got tested and it was clear. Does this mean that he is also clear? As the last time we had sex before I was tested was two days before. Or does he also have to get tested? Thanks in advance.

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    CollageCenter

    Hey! Good question. If I’m understanding your question right, you’ve been with your last boyfriend for the past 2-3 months and just recently got tested for STD’s in which you were negative? I would still recommend that your current boyfriend get tested also. Another question I would ask is if you guys are just sleeping with each other. If you guys have been monogamous with each other, he’s probably clear but I would still get him tested. We’ve had couples come in and one is positive while the other is negative. Our advice, get him tested too! Hope that helps!

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monica —

I had an std but cured it and had sex with my.infected partner he wears a condom but it busted and he fumed inside now I.have.this fishy per smell in my vagina could I.possibly.have an std again I’ve been with.only indebtedness him and dident.wear a condom but now no.have this smell.please help?

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    CollageCenter

    Hello,

    Thanks for your question. Good job getting tested and treated in the first place! But yes, unfortunately, it is very possible that you got re-infected with a STD. Condoms are not 100% effective against STD’s but especially if it broke then yes, I would definitely go test tested again. I would very much encourage both you and your partner to get tested and treated so you’re not getting reinfected.

    As far as the bad smell, it could be a number of things but could definitely be a sign of infection and I would recommend getting that checked out too!

    Hope this helps!

    Collage Medical Team

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Ella —

hi there I got chlamydia from a one night stand and found out in April when I was with my new partner and was retested in early May came back all clear. My partner was tested as soon as I found out and he was negative but took the antibiotic just in case. I’m now 5 months pregnant and have been worried for the past week with thrush or something else. I was just wondering if me and my partner have been clear since I had it in April is there a chance I can still get chlamydia or have it? I wouldn’t of thought so as we were both been cleared. Thank you

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    CollageCenter

    Ella,

    First of all, congratulations on baby coming! We hope and pray the rest of your pregnancy goes smoothly! Sorry for your current complications! I’m pretty sure if you retested clear in May and your partner was negative, you are clear for chlamydia. If you’re going to your prenatal appointments, they usually test you for both chlamydia and gonorrhea at your first appointment. Obviously something is wrong, so good job for asking questions. I would be concerned about a possible yeast infection or something, I would definitely talk to your doctor or you can always phone in and talk to your doctors nurse. No fun, hope you can get that cleared up soon!

    Collage Medical Team

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Savannah —

Hii, thanks for all the good information! But I do have one more question! I have been with the same guy for almost two years now, & we have sex like all the time… Recently it’s been super painful when he puts it in and it hurts for about 30 minutes after too. He said something about even if you’re with the same person and not using a condom , if you have sex a lot you can still get an std is that true ?

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    CollageCenter

    Hi Savannah,

    A lot of sex would not get you an STD. Sex within a good context, like a monogamous marriage is one of the safest places to have a lot of sex and never worry about getting an STD. You have to be exposed sexually to someone who is infected. I’ve had people in here who had sex for the first time, but unfortunately that person was infected and so they got infected – from having sex one time.

    Hope that helps!

    Collage Medical Team

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A —

Hello,
My partner and I have only ever been with each other. We both have no other sexual partners and have not been sexually active at all before getting together. We are not having vaginal sex, but (and I don’t expect any judgement from a health page) have done everything else under the sun, apart from anal sex, for around a year. Can we even contract STDs or STIs? If so, what could they be?
Also, this might sound silly, but is there any way to get pregnant without having vaginal sex?
I have been curious for a while now and trying to be as safe as possible.
Thank you for your help!

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    CollageCenter

    Hello!

    Nope, no judgement here and we always encourage people for asking questions! So good job seeking out answers. If you and your partner have only been with each other sexually and no one else, then no, you would not contract and STD from each other. A lot of sex or sexual activity in itself will not create an STD, it’s having that activity with someone who is infected. That’s why it’s dangerous to have multiple sexual partners, who may have had multiple sexual partners before you. You don’t know what you’re being exposed to. But sex is a great thing, and within the right context like a committed marriage relationship, that couple can enjoy sex as much as they want without ever having to worry about STD’s.

    And no, it’s very unlikely that you could get pregnant without vaginal sex. If somehow ejaculation was close to you and traveled up your vaginal canal, maybe, but that would have to be the most perfect scenario and highly doubtful.

    Glad you are trying to be as safe as possible! I would encourage you that the safest way and often most freeing way is to wait! I know, sounds crazy but think about waiting till you find that one you want to commit yourself to and one who will fully commit to you and then you can enjoy sex without worrying!

    Thanks for the questions!

    Collage Medical Team

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Calvin —

Hi,
I’m considering dating someone who used to have an STD. When she told me, at the time I felt it was rude to ask what type, especially since we just started seeing each other, but she said she was treated and everything is “all good.” I will of course be asking for further information going forward but I guess what I want to know is how likely am I to get an STI if I do get involved with her. I realize it sounds insensitive but I guess what I’m asking is, is it not a good idea for someone like me who is clean to get involved with someone who used to have an STI?

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    CollageCenter

    Hi Calvin,

    I think it’s great she told you and that you are having conversations about this! I know it’s hard to talk about, but so good you guys are. If she had a bacterial STD, and was treated, she would be STD free and there would be no risk of you getting an STD from her.

    There are different STD’s and I think it would be good to know what she was tested for and tested positive for. There are bacterial STD’s, which are treated through antibiotics and cured, and there are viral STD’s and once you have one of those, you have them for life. The CDC has a great page about all the different STD’s: http://www.cdc.gov/std/

    As far as your question about getting involved with her – I stay pretty old school and always encourage people that the safest, don’t have to worry, freest way to get involved with someone sexually would be to wait till you meet that one person you want to spend the rest of your life with! Like marriage 🙂 People in a committed, monogamous relationship can enjoy sex as much as the want without ever worrying about STD’s. Just remember that as an option too!

    And this girl, remember just because she had an STD, doesn’t make her any less of a person.Just as if you ever got one, you’d be no less! But I love that you are asking great questions and thinking about your decisions! Good job. If this girl has been pretty sexually active and continues to be, then yes, I’d probably caution you. But I wouldn’t throw out anyone or make less of anyone because they’ve had an STD in the past, I think you’d want to know the situation and how they’ve changed/learned from it. Looks like you have a few more conversations to be had!

    Hope this helps, and keep thinking and asking questions!

    Collage Medical Team

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Rita —

So my boyfriend brought a couple of gloves over. They all seemed dry and he said they were clean. He used one of those to finger me. It happened a while back. Are there any chances of diseases coming through gloves?

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    CollageCenter

    Hi Rita,

    I guess I don’t know where he got the gloves or what he did with them prior, but if he was telling the truth I do not think there is any risk of getting a disease from a glove. I guess I’d want to know if you are having any symptoms or just worried?

    Thanks for your question,

    Collage Medical Team

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Iris —

Hello,
Iris here. I am 17 years old. Looking for answers. Very sexually active; however, I started noticing symptoms while being with my boyfriend who is now my ex. We were together for about a year. I would get itchy, bleed through periods, etc. Right after the break up, I hooked up with my friend and didn’t use protection. He has check ups every 3 months. And was told he had contracted Chlamydia. He hasn’t had sex with anyone for over 1 year and a half. The only sex partner he had was me. I went to the doctors and got tested, positive. I informed my ex and he was also tested. His doctor; however, said there is little chance for him to have Chlamydia. If that is the case I might have gotten it a year ago and just had symptoms. I don’t know but I’m postive it was from him. He use to say he was itchy and all and every time we had sex we would be itchy after. My mom says that he can be a carrier. He might just pass it on to the next without him actually having it. Is that possible? Because I’ve read about it and some people and sites say about the same. Why don’t doctors tell us that if it is true? I just took my antibiotics and will have to wait a week to check up if I’m negative.

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    CollageCenter

    Hi Iris,

    I think the main thing I would tell you is that Chlamydia and a lot of STD’s are asymptomatic, meaning you have an infection but no symptoms. Guys may have a little discharge or discomfort with urination, but it can go away and not cause much trouble. So naturally, if symptoms go away, people don’t get checked out. And with girls, often they have no symptoms but it really reeks havoc on a woman’s reproductive system. I think people often think they are okay till they have symptoms but no infection in your body is a good thing, especially these STD’s and a woman’s reproductive system! This is why it’s so important to be be careful sexually and get tested regularly if you are having multiple sex partners.

    I’m pretty sure if you got it from your ex-boyfriend, he would also have the infection. He just probably had no symptoms. He would need or needs to get treated for that infection otherwise he will pass it to anyone he has sexual contact with.

    And I’m not sure what the itchy is all about. That usually isn’t a common symptom of chlamydia. I’d recommend talking to a doctor about that! Also, I don’t think doctors are trying to keep anything from you. Sometimes all the information is confusing and only bits and pieces get through. I’m going to link to the CDC’s website on Chlamydia and they also have a lot of other information on other STD’s. This would be a great resource for you!

    http://www.cdc.gov/std/chlamydia/stdfact-chlamydia-detailed.htm

    I hope this helps some! Great job for asking questions and getting treated!

    Collage Medical Team

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Sarah —

Earlier in my relationship with my current boyfriend, he got tested for any stds (we were intimate before the testing, and we’ve each been with one other person previously), and the results came out negative. I hadn’t gotten tested for stds, but if he came out negative, then I’m assuming I am clean as well? It’s been nearly 3 years into our relationship now, and I have most definitely remained faithful to him, and I’m sure he has as well. Is there still a possibility that we are clean if we’ve remained faithful to one another, alongside of not having any stds from the start?

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    CollageCenter

    Hello, Thank you for your question. It sounds like you are wanting to be sure that you have no STD’s. The only way to be sure is to do a full panel test of all STDs. Since some STDs show no signs or symptoms and can be dormant for a period of time and then present with symptoms out of the blue. Also, since you have both had other partners prior to your relationship, it’s always safe to both be tested. I hope this helps get you one step closer to your answer. Good for you for being proactive in your health!

    All the best to you,
    Collage Medical Staff

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A —

Hey. I have only had oral sex with my ex boyfriend 2 years ago. I have not been active since. I recently found out that I have Trichomoniasis. Is it possible that I contacted it though oral sex 2 years ago?

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    CollageCenter

    Hey! Thank you for your question. It is very possible that it was contracted through oral sex. Trichomoniasis is an STD that has been known to show no symptoms for periods of time. However, as I’m sure you know, it is very common and easily treatable. I have attached a link to further help answer any more questions you may have from the Centers For Disease Control regarding Trichomoniasis.
    http://www.cdc.gov/std/trichomonas/stdfact-trichomoniasis.htm
    Unfortunately, there are several STDs that may be contracted orally. Having Trichomoniasis puts you at a higher risk for contracting HIV. So If you have never had a full panel test for all other STDs, I would highly encourage you to do that. Just to be safe and proactive in your health and so you are at peace.

    All the best to you,

    Collage Medical Staff

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Cherie —

Hi, could someone help me answer my question. I have had every test under the sun done for all kinds of STDs and results where negative but I still feel like theres something really wrong. Are STD results accurate?

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    CollageCenter

    Hi Cherie,

    It depends on what kind of STD tests were done and how. Blood tests will be the most accurate, about 99%. Also, there are different incubation periods for STD’s and when they can be detected. If you’ve just been with someone new in the last few days and go get tested, a test may not pick up that infection yet, though you are infected. My recommendation would be to go see a gynecologist for you problems. There could be many reason for what’s going on and it’s probably best they help you in this area! Sorry for all your troubles and we hope you find the answers and help you need!

    Collage Medical Team

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LiloShep —

During one of my prenatal appointments i gotba pap smear and a culture test and my results came back as me have trichonomais and bacterial vaginosis excuse my spelling.. I did cheat on him before I even knew I was pregnant but 1 was tested twice for stds/sti and they came back negative. I informed him about the results nd took my medicine he never got checked which was very annoying i didnt sleep with him for 2 weeks and then we started back having sex .. I went back to my doctor and she tested me again and the results came back as no trich but I still had the bacterial vaginosis.. Im wondering how could that be possible ? That was the first time Ive ever had and std/sti and im pretty health conscious. Ive had CBC tests and tests donevat local clinics and hospitals and they were always negative. I just had a CBC done a few weeks ago and everything came back fine.

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    CollageCenter

    Hello,

    It’s great you’re getting tested and treated! Good job! Now, bacterial vaginosis (BV) is not considered an STD. It’s an infection that’s caused when there’s too much of a particular bacteria that changes the normal balance of bacteria in your vagina. I don’t think they know the cause of BV, but it is due to bacteria. A few things that can cause it are multiple sex partners, new sex partners or douching. Here’s a great link from the CDC on bacterial vaginosis for more information:
    http://www.cdc.gov/std/bv/stdfact-bacterial-vaginosis.htm

    And it’s great that you are so health conscious, just remember having multiple sex partners puts you at risk for contracting an STD, and many times they don’t have symptoms. Also, if you would have an STD, get treated but your partner not treated, then they could reinfect you so it’s important to both get tested and treated.

    Hopefully this helps!

    Collage Medical Team

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timo —

Hi I was wondering me and a friend touched genitals about 2 years ago, nothing was swapped over all dry and it was no longer than 20 seconds and it did not penetrate i had no symptoms at all. I have been with my current partner for over a year and a half and started to get a dull pain in my testicles so i got tested 2 times one saying possessive for gonorrhoea but negative for chlamydia, my partner also got looked at when i did and she got different meds than me. 2nd time i got tested it came back negative for gonorrhea but positive for chlamydia, could i have had it from this 20 second touch or could she have had it and not know it, The girl that we touched genitals hasn’t said anything about having and STD or anything

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    CollageCenter

    Hey,

    First, you can transfer some STD’s just by genital to genital contact such as Herpes, HPV and Syphilis. So you have to take caution in doing things like that too. As for as you being positive for gonorrhea and chlamydia, that you probably got through your girlfriend or a previous sexual partner. One of the main things about gonorrhea and chlamydia is that you can be infected for long periods of time and not know it because often they have no symptoms.

    I’m a little confused when you say your girlfriend got different medications than you that fist time you both got tested. Was she positive for something else? There is also a 7-10 day waiting period for sex after you take meds for an STD, otherwise you can re-infect. Maybe that was the case. Also, if you guys are not monogamous with each other, that opens the door for other STD’s. And the second time you got tested, did you girlfriend also get tested again? I would say she needs to also because she most likely has chlamydia too and needs treated otherwise she can reinfect you.

    Hope this helps!
    Collage Medical Team

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Calvin —

If I never had sexual contact with a woman and I get bumps that go away in a few days what does that mean

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    CollageCenter

    Hi Calvin,

    Bumps could be a lot of different things! I wish we could help more but if you are concerned, I would recommend getting seen by your physician who could examine your bumps, ask questions and help from there!

    Sorry we can’t be of more help, hope you get the answers you need!

    Collage Medical Team

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W —

Hi

I had protected sex a few months ago but had semi oral sex unprotected a few months ago. I didn’t swallow anything.

For the past few weeks I have had a bad sore throat fever and took antibiotics and it went away. Then it came back a week later. Took more antibiotics and t went away again. Now again I have a sore throat. No other symptoms such as painfully urination or genital warts or anything. But I got sick it seemed immediately after I made out with someone. Worried I have an std???? Could I have gotten something from the first guy a few months ago? Or this most recent guy??? Very worried please help!

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    CollageCenter

    Hey W,

    You very well could of acquired and oral STD from oral sex a few months ago. You don’t necessarily have to swallow anything to contract and STD, lot’s of times skin to skin contact with an infected person can pass the disease. If you did contract an oral STD, you would need to get your throat swabbed for the test as a urine STD test would not pick up the disease in your throat. I would suggest if you go back to your doctor, tell them the possibility so they could swab you and you can get the right medications if need be. There could be a lot of different causes for your sore throat, so try not to worry and take it one step at a time!

    Hope this helps and hope your throat gets to feeling better!

    Collage Medical Team

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R. —

There was a time when I had multiple partners and wasn’t using protection. I know some of these people are not clean. About 2 years ago I got tested (all negative) and have been celibate since then. Am I still safe; should I get tested again?

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    CollageCenter

    Hello,

    Thanks for reaching out. If you were tested for a complete STD Panel and tested negative, then you should be okay. Are you having symptoms that you are concerned about? If so, I would suggest that you see your doctor.

    Take Care,
    Collage Medical Team

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Ashley —

Hi I just got told I have hpv and my pap came back abnormal my boyfriend and I been together for the past 4 years and only been with each other for the last 4 years and it’s my first time ever getting tested for it and even having a pap done other then having my daughter. 7 years ago I was wondering could I been having before I got with my boyfriend or him have it before us? I just found out today and I’m scared please help me understand this ?????

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    CollageCenter

    Hi Ashley,

    Sorry to hear you have HPV! That’s a scary thing to hear but there are a lot of different strands of HPV (around 40) and some will clear on their own. It’s great you got a pap smear and are being preventative. I would wonder what the Doctor told you after your abnormal pap smear?

    If you had other partners before your boyfriend, or your boyfriend previous partners before you, there are a lot of different ways you could have contracted this. Possibly from a previous partner or possibly from your boyfriend.

    I’m going to link to a few pages from the CDC about HPV that are great resources for you to look at:
    http://www.cdc.gov/hpv/parents/whatishpv.html
    http://www.cdc.gov/std/hpv/pap/default.htm

    Hope this helps and try not to be too scared! One step at at time!

    Collage Medical Team

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Hpv????? —

?? Why does this say this it’s something I read online. ” There is no available reliable way to determine whether you have HPV, for men or women. You cannot get tested. Tge test you had was a very limited one. It requires A LOT of the virus present to be positive and it only tests for certain strains. The HPV test basically only tells you whether you are at risk for cancer. It does not tell you whether you have HPV.
And it’s very common. If you’ve had sex with a couple of people, you should assume you’ve had it at some point. If that’s true why did my doctor tell me have hpv with just a pap done?

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    CollageCenter

    Hey There,

    Yes, I agree with you, all these different facts about Human Papillomavirus (HPV) are very confusing! Reading things online can also be very confusing too, you always want to make sure you’re reading form a reputable website. Knowing who wrote it, is it fact or opinion, who or what organization is behind the website are a few good ways to know what you’re reading.

    There are a lot of different strands of HPV, about 40. Some of these strands, you can get but they clear on their own within a year or two. Kind of like a cold or flu virus, there’s not much you can do, antibiotics don’t help viruses, you body just had to fight them. There are other strands of HPV that cause genital warts, and others that do cause cancer.

    As far as I know you can have an HPV test done and if often done with a pap smear. I’m not sure all the details around your pap smear, did you have an abnormal pap result and retested? I cannot know your Doctors thoughts and these are probably best questions asked for your Doc! You can always call the office and ask to speak to their nurse.

    These are some great links from the CDC that might help you understand HPV and testing clearer:
    http://www.cdc.gov/hpv/parents/whatishpv.html
    http://www.cdc.gov/std/hpv/pap/default.htm

    Hope this is helpful!

    Collage Medical Team

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Deborah —

I got chlamydia when i was 15 iim 19 now i went doctors yesterday they said i had a cervix erosion really worried now can i still have kids?

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    CollageCenter

    Hi Deborah,

    I think cervical erosion can be a common finding among young women and there can be a lot of different causes for it. From my reading on it, I think it can regulate on it’s own with time. As far as fertility, I don’t think just because you have cervical erosion, you won’t be able to have kids. I think it can affect fertility but it’s not a absolute no, no kids kind of thing. These are all probably best questions to ask your doctor too! You can always call the clinic you were checked at and ask to speak to the doctors nurse if you are really concerned.

    As for as having chlamydia at 15, I’m not sure it’s directly related to the cervical erosion.But I do know for sure untreated chlamydia can really affect fertility, so if you’ve had other sexual partners since got tested last, I would get/continue to get STD tests regularly. Here’s a link to the CDC on STD’s and fertility: http://www.cdc.gov/std/infertility/

    It sounds like you want to have kids in the future, which is wonderful! They are fantastic. I would recommend that one of the best ways to help protect that dream would be to wait till you can find that awesome someone you want to commit yourself to in a long term monogamous relationship with, like marriage. I know it sounds old school but then you can enjoy sex freely without worrying about STD’s and also not risk getting STD’s that would affect having cute little babies in the future!

    Hope this helps some!

    Collage Medical Team

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rk —

Hello! I recently got a call from my x bf saying he got gonorrhea from me. I was immediately tested for it and every other std and everything came back negative. I did however start to have a foul smelling discharge and some dull pains in my lower abdomen. And this has started after my Dr visit. The last time I had sex with him was in august and haven’t had sex with anyone since then. He said he has had several antibiotic treatments and the gonorrhea keeps coming back, and that it is an incurable strain. Is that possible? ??? He says he hasn’t had sex with anyone since me, but idk weather or not to believe that. I’m glad he warned me about what is going on with him, but is it possible I have it too and the test was wrong? Also I have a 2 year old son and we have shared showers and bath towels. Is it possible for my son to catch it if I actually am Infected??? Me and my x did do oral sex, if I actually have the std could I spread it to my son from kissing?????? I’m so confused and worried!

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    CollageCenter

    Hi rk,

    I think if you were tested and cleared, you are okay. There are false negative’s at times but it’s a pretty slim chance of that. If you’re really worried you could go get rechecked for gonorrhea alone since that is the main concern. The discharge and pains in your lower abdomen, I’m not sure what that’s about. Usually foul smelling discharge is a sign of some sort of infection and the pain in your lower abdomen would concern me too. I would definitely follow up with your primary care doctor about this if it does not resolve.

    As for as an incurable strain of gonorrhea, I’m not sure I’ve heard of that but as a disease progresses sometimes they can be more and more resistant to antibiotics, therefore making it harder to treat. Here is a link to the CDC about gonorrhea and antibiotic resistance: http://www.cdc.gov/std/gonorrhea/arg/basic.htm. Perhaps this is what your ex-boyfriend is talking about.

    And I would not worry too much about your son and him catching it from you. These are called sexually transmitted diseases for a reason. The odds of him getting through a shared bath or towel are very, very slim. Yes, there is oral gonorrhea but I think the verdict is still out there on how easily it’s passed through kissing, and the kind of kisses you give your son are probably safe. Again, if you were tested and negative for STD’s I think you are fine. I totally get the scare but I think you are probably okay. But again, you can always talk to your primary care doctor about these things for more clarity and especially about your discharge and abdominal pain.

    Hope this helps a little bit!

    Collage Medical Team

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elyssa nicole —

I have only had sex with one person, and it is my current boyfriend of over a year, and i lost my virginity to him. We have been having sex for almost a year, without a condom, and i am on the pill. He was tested before we got together because he was sexually active with his other past girlfriends, and it has come out negative. Is it possible to still get an STD even though he’s clean and he’s the only one i am sexually active with?

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    CollageCenter

    Hi Elyssa,

    This is a common question we get! I would say your chances of having an STD are very slim. I always remind people that sex is a gift and a wonderful thing! Think about marriage, two people that are in a long-tern, committed, monogamous relationship with only each other, they can have as much sex as they want and never have to worry about STD’s! You have to have sex with an infected person to get an STD.

    Hope this helps gain a little clarity! Thanks for your question!

    Collage Medical Team

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Jaxks —

I had sex with 3 different men and oral sex with all of them and another man, i dont have any symptoms and 2 of them never had any sexual experience, the other two only had one partner and me, should i get tested even though i do not have any sypmtoms??!!

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    CollageCenter

    Hi Jaxks,

    I would definitely recommend getting tested for STD’s. The more sexual partners you have, the more at risk you are. Especially the two that have had one other partner and you, you don’t know how many partners their previous partners have had. You would be possibly exposed to the history of their other partners, partners. I hope that makes sense! Also, many STD’s show no symptoms which is one reason they are passed so frequently! No symptoms, people don’t get tested but are in fact infected.

    So yes, again, I would recommend getting tested! And here’s a link to the CDC which had some great information on STD’s: http://www.cdc.gov/std/default.htm

    Hope this helps!

    Collage Medical Team

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paranoid —

Hello. 1 month ago i had unprotected sex with a girl i just met. After 2 weeks there was a burning and itchy feeking in my urethra i went to the doctor got tested for uti and a blood test doctor said i dont have gonnorhea exceot for a diagnosis of severe UTI after taking the prescribed medicine for 7 days I was cleared of uti then after 3-4 days i had unprotected sex with my gf after 2 days I went back to the clinic because i was paranoid that I still have std and may have passed it on to my gf. I did a gram stain test 4 weeks after initial contact with the girl i just met. the result was negative for any std but has pus cells: rare. Doctor said it was due to the uti. He prescribed cefexime 200mg single dose just to be sure. I was wondering if it is negative then I did not pass it on to my gf is that correct? Sorry for my bad english. Looking forward to your response.

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    CollageCenter

    Hi Paranoid,

    Since you were negative twice for STD’s, I would say you are in the clear! And I’m sure you know this but a UTI is not a sexually transmitted disease. I can totally understand your paranoia because there are a lot of STD’s and they are spread so easily! I’m going to encourage you like I do everyone else here, sex is a gift and a wonderful thing. If you can wait to have sex in the best context, for example, with someone you’re in a mutually, long term monogamous relationship with, like a marriage, you can enjoy sex freely and as much as you want with no paranoia! I know it goes against the grain of most thinking nowadays but it’s definitely and option to consider! We want you to live free, happy, healthy and paranoia free!

    Hope this helps!

    Collage Medical Team

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Tabitha —

Hi! This might be a silly question but I’m curious. I’ve only had one sexual partner in my life and it is my current boyfriend. He has been tested for an STD and it came back negative. We have never had unprotected sex but I’ve recently been experiencing chronic UTI’s. My doctor said I need to be tested for an STD. I think my doctor believes I’m lying about having only one sexual partner. Is it possible that I have an STD even though I’ve only had one sexual partner and boyfriend’s test came back negative?

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    CollageCenter

    Hi Tabitha,

    No silly questions here, I’m so glad you are asking questions! I would say it’s very unlikely that you would have an STD if you’ve only ever been with your boyfriend sexually and he tested negative. Some STD’s can get passed through simple genital to genital contact, so if you’ve ever had any of that sexual contact before your boyfriend, maybe you could of acquired one that way. But otherwise there is probably another explanation for why you are having so many UTI’s and they need to dig into that for you cause that is no good and no fun! I hope you can get some answers!

    Collage Medical Team

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Sarah —

Hi! I was wondering if the only way to transmit an STD/STI is through anal, vaginal or oral sex. I recently found out I have chlamydia, and since I found out I was with one guy but we didn’t actually have sex. There was no oral sex involved either, but we were fooling around with each other and had genital contact, but sexual intercourse/oral sex never occurred. Is there a chance I infected him?

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    CollageCenter

    Hi Sarah,

    I would say there was a chance that you could have infected him. Chlamydia is a bacterially sexually transmitted disease, so I believe that even genital to genital contact could spread the disease even if you didn’t have sexual intercourse. Did you get treated for Chlamydia? This is what CDC says this on their chlamydia page:

    “Chlamydia is transmitted through sexual contact with the penis, vagina, mouth, or anus of an infected partner. Ejaculation does not have to occur for chlamydia to be transmitted or acquired.”

    Here’s the link to their page which has great information on it: http://www.cdc.gov/std/chlamydia/stdfact-chlamydia-detailed.htm

    I would probably encourage him to get tested! Sorry for the bad news!

    Thanks for your question and hope this helps!

    Collage Medical Team

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Hailey —

I hooked up with a guy in March and ever since we have been having casual sex a few times a month ever since. We had sex in October and I started having symptoms a week later. I got checked a week later and it turned out to be Chlamydia, which I got antibiotics for. Two weeks later, I felt back to normal and we had sex again last week. Almost immediately I started having symptoms again, I have an appointment on Monday, and now the symptoms are a little more painful. I have a strong feeling I got the Chlamydia from him and I’m nervous on telling him to get checked because he has a gf and I feel terrible since I had no idea she existed, since we only talk when we needed sex . My question is, if I had sex one other time in August with someone else is it possible to have caught an std back then and the symptoms are now showing up? Or most likely it’s from him recently? I know he’s not faithful to his girl and I’m sure he’s slept with more than me. I don’t know how to bring it up? If he comes back negative I’m going to look real stupid . But it’s probably better to be safe ?!

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    CollageCenter

    Hi Hailey,

    Good job asking questions! Being tested and treated if needed is super important to your health so good job staying on top of that we well!

    To answer your question, it’s not likely you are just now seeing symptoms of Chlamydia from your August partner since you were treated in October. However, it’s possible you might be dealing with something else other than Chlamydia. So, keeping your appointment for today is pretty important for your health.

    You might think I’m nuts but I’m going to encourage you like I do everyone else. Sex is a wonderful thing, don’t get me wrong. But if you can wait to have sex in the best context, like with someone you’re in a mutually, long term monogamous relationship with, like marriage, you can enjoy it freely and as much as you want without having to deal with the hassles of stds. And honestly, I don’t know you, but that doesn’t really matter because you still deserve a guy who loves you and wants to be with you for who you are and not just what he can get from you. I know, sounds a little old school maybe, but just something to think about it. I encourage you to just be really open with any guy and ask tough questions. If he really cares about you, you don’t have to worry about how he’ll take it if you bring up stds or anything else for that matter.

    Hope that helps.
    Kenda, RN

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Unknown —

Im 26 years old and ive never had an std. About 2-3 weeks ago I had my paps smear. Prior to that I just got off my cycle for the 2nd time that month and had a boil on my private area. (I have the merana IUD) . we havent had sex in 2 months because of our work and school scgedule. so I got a call from my doctor saying my paps smear was normal but they found an STD. AT THIS POINT I’M READY TO KILL MY HUSBAND because I never been with nobody else sexually. I’m scared and don’t know what to do. Help me understand how is this possible.

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    CollageCenter

    Oh girl, I’m so sorry! I’d be confused and upset too. I wish we had some black and white answers for you but there are just too many unknowns. Were you able to have an open conversation with your doc and get some answers from him? For instance, what STD did he say you have and is it possible to contract it any other way besides genital to genital contact? I’d sure encourage you to talk to husband. As hard as it might be, start off being gentle, giving him an opportunity to explain before you jump to conclusions. I know you sent this email a couple days ago so I’m sorry I couldn’t get back to you sooner. Feel free to shoot back another email if you need to.

    Hang in there!
    Gaye

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Rekha —

I had oral sex with my boyfriend we both are clean we doesn’t have any disease and we never had sex with someone else and I got mouth ulcer or cold sore does that mean I have std or sti? I used to get mouth ulcer even before I had oral sex though

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    CollageCenter

    If you and your partner have never had sex or physical contact with each other or others, it is probably unlikely you’d get and STD from each other. You can however get STD’s through having oral sex with anyone who is infected. Yes, cold sores on the mouth can be a symptom of herpes which can be transmitted sexually both orally or through oral-genital or genital-genital contact. Something to remember would be that herpes can be spread even when there are no symptoms present. If you would like more information about herpes, check out http://www.cdc.gov/std/Herpes/STDFact-Herpes.html
    Thanks for the question,
    Kenda, R.N.

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medusa —

so me and the partner dont have stds is it possible to get herpes by having sex with the same person who doesnt have stds

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    CollageCenter

    Hi Medusa,
    If you and your partner have never had sex or physical contact with each other or others, it is probably unlikely you’d get and STD from each other. You can however get STD’s through having oral sex with anyone who is infected. If you have only been with your partner sexually, you probably don’t have an sexually transmitted disease (STD) Keep in mind that STD’s can be passed if you’ve had any sexual contact, oral, anal or vaginally with others. Some can even be passed just by genital, to genital contact. Sorry to be so blunt! I think people’s definition of “sex” varies or is pretty narrow- just covering my bases! If you would like more information about herpes, check out http://www.cdc.gov/std/Herpes/STDFact-Herpes.html Be careful, and remember there’s always the option to wait (yes, it’s hard). But waiting to have sex until you are in a committed marriage, you can enjoy sex freely without worrying about STD’s, which is really nice. Thanks for the question, and let us know if you have any more.
    The Collage Medical Team

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Sara —

My fiancé and I are sexually active, we have both have had multiple sexual partners in the past, but we are only sexual with each other now. Can we still get an STD? We can’t use latex condoms because I am severely allergic. And lamb condoms irate my skin. I’ve tried the pill but I gain so much weight. Please help. I’m just curious and worried. Please help

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    CollageCenter

    Hi Sara
    We’re glad you emailed. The only things I can think of is to make sure you both got tested for the full panel of STD’s and to keep in mind that STD’s have different incubation periods (once you’re infected, to when it would show up on a lab test). The longest one, HIV, can take up to 6 months to show up on a lab report. So, if your last sexual partner was a year ago and you recently got tested, you’d be clear. If your last sexual partner was less than 6 months ago, you’d probably want to get tested 6 months after that to be all clear. I would think, most likely, if you and your fiancé tested clean for any STD’s, and you’re in a monogamous relationship with each other, you’re golden. That’s exciting that you are engaged, congratulations! You mentioned that you have had issues with a couple of different forms of contraception. I want to leave something for you think about and I know I sound crazy but what about waiting until your wedding night? You both are worth the wait plus think of the fun you’d have being able to enjoy one another without any extra worry.

    Kenda, R.N.

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Timothy —

Is it possible that 2 different STDs cancel each other out durning sex

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    CollageCenter

    Hi Timothy,

    Nope, 2 different STD’s won’t cancel each other out! Unfortunately a person can have multiple STD’s! If your questioning if you have an STD or a few, best thing to do is go get tested! Here’s a link to the CDC and more information on STD’s that might help you understand them better too: http://www.cdc.gov/std/ And just so you know, we test and treat Gonorrhea & Chlamydia, the two most common bacterial STDs.

    Thanks for your question!

    Collage Medical Team

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Fi —

I have been with my boyfriend for 11 months. Prior to our relationship I have had no other sexual contact with anyone, neither has he. We were both complete virgins before we started going out and have only slept with and done foreplay with each other. Is there any chance one of us could get chlamydia or any other STI?

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    CollageCenter

    Hello Fi,

    I would say that you guys would be very low risk of getting an STD due to being only ever sexually active with each other. I always remind people that sex is a great thing and a gift, used in the right context there is no risk just by having sex. The safest is being in a long term monogamous relationship with one person, my favorite example is two people in a marriage commitment. In this case, these two people could have sex as freely and as often as they want and never worry about contracting an STD. The risk comes when a person has multiple sexual relationships. So, I know I’m old school but I always encourage that if you can wait for that one person you want to commit yourself to long term, like marriage, there’s a lot of freedom and beauty in that!

    Thanks for your question and hope this helps!
    Collage Medical Team

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kal —

Forewarning, I have a loaded question that is mainly regarding the contraction of irregular infections orally/vaginally/anally (and just on the skin in general), but the question also extends to my concern for general infection spreading.
I am sexually active and practice safe sex habits such as using condoms, peeing after sex, practicing good hand and oral hygiene, AS WELL AS trying to know my partners as best I can, prior to engaging sexually with them, having open conversations with them about sex and getting tested regularly and with every new partner. Understanding that there are still inherent risks in transmitting STDs, my question actually extends outside of that scope (stick with me, I promise it will come full circle).
I work in direct patient health care and with all of the antibacterial resistant bugs out there and how filthy a hospital can be simply because it is a place that houses sick people, I worry about the possibility of infecting myself or my partner with an atypical infection (bacterial/viral/fungal) that isn’t typically tested for when you go to the doctor, and therefore being misdiagnosed/mistreated.
Everything I know currently says that we usually are in search for a specific infection when we are doing testing, so therefore we are only getting positive or negative results for whatever STI/infection we are specifically testing for. In other words, there is no simple test out there that simply states “yes you are infected, now we can dig further for what infection you might have”. There is simply a “you have X discharge or Y odor or Z lesion therefore we, the doctor, want to test you for X disease and see if you are positive or negative and treat you accordingly”.

So…my question is… as someone who is in direct contact with patients on a daily basis who have increasingly dangerous and resistant diseases, short of practicing excellent hygiene when I get off of work, how do I protect my loved ones (sexual partners, infants that put everything in their mouth, etc) from these nasty bugs that I might bring home from the hospital, and what can I say to my health care providers to ensure that I am getting proper tests done, given that I probably deal with less typical bugs than the average person deals with? It seems overkill to have extensive culturing done to answer that, but I don’t have any other ideas.

Much appreciated,
Kal

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    CollageCenter

    Hi Kal,

    Great question. First of all, great job for practicing safe sex habits. It’s great you seem so knowledgeable in these good habits but also knowing there are inherent risks still.

    As a nurse, I’m with you and I get your concern. I wish I had a more straight forward answer for you. I think you are pretty much doing best practice in good hygiene at work and then when you get off work. As far as I know there is no routine tests for healthcare workers just to check for these bugs. A lot of these will have symptoms, like MRSA, VRE, CDIFF. In some ways it is a good thing when sicknesses have symptoms because then you have a cue that something is off and can get checked out. Being an STD blog post, that’s the hard thing about a lot of these STD’s, they have no symptoms while they can reek havoc on your body. That’s why we so encourage people who are sexually active to get tested routinely. I’m sure you know all this.

    The CDC has a lot of links on hospital acquired infections for patient protection and healthcare workers. Here’s the like and link to a long article if you’re interested:
    http://www.cdc.gov/HAI/prevent/ppe.html
    http://www.cdc.gov/hicpac/pdf/InfectControl98.pdf

    Usually healthcare facilities have pretty good guidelines to keep employees and patients safe. Good hand hygiene, gowning up for isolation patients, masking for airborne diseases and such. I think following those should help keep you and your loved ones safe. As a healthcare worker myself I haven’t seen masses people and their loved ones fall sick to these superbugs. I know it happens but not by the loads, otherwise I think healthcare facilities and CDC would be recommending other ways to keep people safe.

    I think it’s great you are aware of these diseases and the risks associated with them. I think it will make you take more caution to follow best practice. I know it’s not a strait forward answer, but I hope it helps. If you ever see your doctor, you can always explain your concerns to them and ask if they have any recommendations too.

    All the best,
    Collage Medical Team

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Sunny —

I have a girlfriend and we are planning on having oral sex. would we still get any STDs if we are both clean, virgins, and have no cuts?

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    CollageCenter

    Hi Sunny,

    If you are both virgins and have had no other sexual contact with other people then no, you would not transfer any STD’s to each other. We get this question a lot about having sex and transferring STD’s. I like to remind people that sex is a gift and when used in the right context like a long-term, monogamous relationship such as marriage there’s no risk in having sex and STD’s. I know I’m old school, but that’s what I always recommend! For the best body, mind and soul health!

    Hope this helps and thanks for writing in with your question!
    Collage Medical Team

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Anonymous —

I am 18 and my boyfriend and I have been dating for 2 and half years. We are each others first partner ever, we have only had sex with eachother. This past Valentines day we had sex and we used a condom. The next day i was spotting and then I had a light period. It was abnormal bc my flow was fluctuating. It has been over a month now and I still have my period. This has never happened to me. What do you think is going on?

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    CollageCenter

    Hi Anonymous,

    So sorry for you! No fun to bleed for a month. In regards to that, I would refer you to talk to a doctor or gynecologist. There could be a lot of different reasons that might be happening. Sorry I can’t help you further there. I’m guessing since you’re writing this question on our STD myths blog post you might wonder if you possibly have an STD that would be causing this? If you and your boyfriend have been sexually active with only each other (to include vaginal, oral and anal sex), I don’t think that would be the case. Two people in a mutually monogamous, long term relationship, like marriage can have sex as much as they want together and never have to worry about having an STD. The risk starts when you date someone, have sex, break up, date someone else, have sex, break up, and then find someone else, date, have sex, break up and so forth… You’re then exposing yourself to not only those partners but any of their previous sexual partners. Okay, I’ll quit my sex ed now 🙂

    I hope this helps a little bit. Good job in trying to take care of your health!
    Collage Medical Team

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Will —

Long story simple, me and my girlfriend are both virgins and once tried having intercourse without condom, although my penis didn’t go all the way in, i did had “pre-cum” inside her, she said she was in her “dry days” where she had no chance of getting pregnant. Another time we tried oral sex without condom, and i didn’t ejaculated in her mouth or anything. My questions are, is there a chance that she gets pregnant from pre ejaculation? And, are we, mostly her, at risk of oral STDs? She is the only partner I’ve had, and I’m her only as well.
Thanks

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    CollageCenter

    Hi Will,

    Thanks for writing in with your question. Your first question about pregnancy, I think it’s rare to get pregnant from pre-ejaculation but very possible too. For example, in this journal article “Sperm Content of Pre-ejaculatory Fluid” they took pre-ejaculatory samples from 27 subjects, 41% of those men had samples that contained sperm, 37% had motile sperm. Their conclusion was this: “We conclude that a major proportion of men leak motile sperm in their pre-ejaculatory fluid. Current advice should continue to be to wear a condom prior to any genital contact in order to minimize unintended pregnancy and disease transmission.”

    As for as STD’s. Since you are each other’s first partners, there would be very small risk of acquiring an STD from each other. We get this question a lot about sex and STD’s. Sex in and of itself is a gift and used in the right context, you can have as much sex as you want and never have to worry about STD’s. For example, two people who are married, committed to each other never need to worry about STD’s from having sex. It’s having multiple sexual partners that increases your risk.

    So in my old school advice, wait for that knock out girl you don’t want to live without, commit to her and enjoy sex freely without worrying about STD’s! 🙂 I know it’s hard but doable!
    Hope this helps and good job for asking questions! Keep asking them!

    Collage Medical Team

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Pete —

If two males have never had an STD before and they decide to have unprotected sex, is it possible for one or both of them to contract one afterwards?

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Marlenny —

I have been with my boyfriend for almost 5 years he went to get checked because he always had pain a in one of his testicles. Turns out he had chlamydia. He told me he has never cheated but I’m not sure if this go unnoticed for so long. We have had unprotected sex ever since I can remember so I always went for treatment. Can chlamydia last all of this time ?

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    CollageCenter

    Hi Marlenny,

    Yes, Chlamydia will stay in your system from when you’re infected till you treat it with an antibiotic. And the thing about chlamydia is that you are often infected but have no symptoms. So lots of people will have chlamydia for long periods of time and do not know it. That is why we so encourage people to get tested regularly if you are having new sexual partners. Especially for girls, there are no symptoms but it really reeks havoc on your reproductive system. Also remember that if he got treated, it will take 7-10 days for the antibiotics to kill all the chlamydia bacteria so it’s important not to have sex in that time or there can be re-infection. And you would need to be tested and treated too.

    Thanks for writing in with your question, we hope this helps!
    Collage Medical Team

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Jassi —

While trying for the first baby doc had told me having baby is difficult for you and as you grow old chances will almost will be 0, me & my husband tried for 4months but nothing worked then at the end i got injected my husbands sperm then it worked. Three & half years later i had affair with a guy and our first sex i got pregnant i was shocked how it happened me & my husband tried so much we couldn’t. Then i got it abort now i had sex with same guy 1 year later from the abortion i got preg again. I’m 30 now. Doctors told me there are no chances of getting preg & while having sex i was on heavy medicines more than 1500mg a day for my head nerve.what if i abort this & try with my husband for kid will i able to get preg after 2 abortions? How with this guy I get preg so fast? 2times i had unprotected sex & i got preg thats shocking after what doc said

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    CollageCenter

    Dear Jassi,

    Thank you for your email. Wow, you’ve been through a lot. I really wish that I could tell you why you haven’t been able to conceive with your husband when you’ve been able to so quickly with someone else. I’m not a physician so unfortunately I cannot give you that answer. If you haven’t talked to your doctor recently, I’d encourage you to set up an appointment and try to get some more detailed answers.

    You asked if having a second abortion could ruin your chances of conceiving with your husband. Typically, it’s not a conception issue but rather an inability to carry to term. For instance, if the cervix and/or uterus is weakened or damaged, it could lead to potential miscarriage. This is more likely to affect women who have had multiple surgical abortions.

    The other aspect you might want to consider is the emotional and relational impact this decision could potentially have on you. Women who have come to Collage after walking through ending a pregnancy have shared that they struggle with things like depression, drug and alcohol abuse because they want to numb their feelings, and relational problems with their partners because they don’t understand what they’ve been through. If you really want the best possible relationship with your husband, take time to think through how this decision could effect that.

    You deserve the absolute best Jassi. If it would help to talk, we’d be happy to sit down with you. We can sure listen and try to help you in any way we can. Just give us a call to set up a time.

    Take care of yourself,

    Kenda, R.N.

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Lily —

Wow reading this article will make someone scared to have sex ever again. I’ve had sex before never unprotected and get tested regularly even when I’m abstaining like right now. I get scared a little even when I get little hair bumps or pimples in that area. This article scared me like literally. Makes me never want to even think of sex anymore

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    CollageCenter

    Hi Lily,

    I totally feel you and it makes sense you might read these things and feel like that! I however would encourage you not to go forward in fear. It’s certainly not our intention to “fear” people into not having sex. Our intention is to teach on these things and make people aware of STD’s so they can make good choices. Sure, you can read things like this and go “Wow! These are scary things…” but then take what you need to learn from it, walk boldly and make the best choices. And really, it sounds like you’re making great choices by getting tested regularly and choosing to abstain currently, so great job!

    This makes me think of a lot of statistics that are scary. For instance, if you’ve ever looked at car crash statistics, that’s kind of scary. Something like 1.3 million people die in car crashes every year – that’s around 3,287 deaths a day. Yikes! I might think … “I want to live, I have children I drive around that I love”. I could totally be scared and never get in a car again, or never take my kids for walks where we might even glance at those horrible cars! Or, I can take those statistics and think … “yeah, that’s scary and there are risks of having an accident, but what can I do to help prevent that?” Well, I wear my seat belt, I drive on the right side of the road, I stop at stop lights, I don’t text when I drive, etc.

    I’m positive you’re a smart girl, so I’d encourage you to go forward from what you read, take the lessons learned and decide on what choices you need to make so you can live freely and confidently! One thing I remind people of is that sex is a great thing, a gift, we just have to use it in the right context. Old school me is always going to encourage people to wait – wait for that person you want to spend the rest of your life with. Think of two people who’re in a mutually monogamous, long-term relationship, like marriage. They can enjoy sex freely and as much as they want without ever worrying about STD’s.

    All this to say again, I hope you can take what you need to learn from this article or any situation and continue making good choices confidently and not fearfully. You got this Lily girl! Thanks for writing in!

    Collage Medical Team

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Lexy —

Me and my fiancé have never even kissed anyone but eachother (we met when we were 15) and he recently had red bumps around his pubic hair area and they turned white so I thought they were just infected hairs, a few days later they were all over the base of his penis and he scratched constantly and now he says it’s itchy but hurts and it burns when he ejaculates or pees after sex. I’m 30 weeks pregnant but nothing seems different with me at all. I told him not to shave for a while and wait and see what happens. Neither of us has so much as kissed another partner. Should he get tested? Should I? He’s very embarrassed about it but it’s causing him a lot of pain. Since we’ve never had any contact with another person sexually are we still at risk?

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    CollageCenter

    Hi Lexy,

    Thanks for your email. Congratulations on having a baby on the way! ☺

    These are great questions and understandable that you may be concerned.

    STD’s are passed sexually (vaginal, anal, oral sex) so a person would have to have sex or sexual contact with another person who’s infected with an STD to be infected themselves.

    Think of a virgin couple that gets married. They will likely have sex on their wedding night, but won’t be at risk for acquiring an STD. Just having sex doesn’t pass STD’s, you have to have sex or sexual contact with someone who’s infected. If you and your fiancé were virgins and haven’t had ANY form of sexual contact with others it’s highly unlikely for either of you to have an STD.

    Most physicians now test gals during pregnancy for STD’s just to be sure no additional plans need to be made as far as delivery, as some STD’s can be passed to baby during vaginal birth process. You may want to check with your doctor and see if testing was done if you’re at all concerned.

    At Collage, we do provide complimentary testing and treatment for Chlamydia and Gonorrhea, the two highest reportable STD’s in the U.S. You mentioned your fiancé was experiencing pain with ejaculation and peeing. This could be a symptom that goes along with Chlamydia and Gonorrhea, but not limited to that. The bumps you’re describing however aren’t a symptom we’d see with these two STD’s. If your fiancé is still experiencing symptoms, I would recommend that he get in to see a physician to be evaluated.

    Hope this helps and great job in taking care of your health!

    Collage Medical Team

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Xavier Ponce —

If me and my partner never had sex, can we still have risks of STD’s or no.

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    CollageCenter

    Hi Xavier,

    Good question and one we get quite often. If you or your partner haven’t had any sexual relationships (this includes vaginal, anal and oral sex) then no, you wouldn’t be at risk for getting an STD. You have to have sex with someone who’s infected with an STD to get infected yourself. I always like to remind people that sex is a good thing and a gift when used in the right context. Two people in a long term, monogamous relationship like marriage can have sex as much as they want without ever having to worry about STD’s. So we recommend waiting for that person you want to spend the rest of your life with and then enjoy sex freely without worrying about STD’s!

    Thanks for writing in and good job asking questions!

    Collage Medical Team

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Zay —

Can std be pasted from not washing up between intercourse with same person?

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    CollageCenter

    Hi Zay,

    Not washing up between intercourse with the same person would not be a cause for getting an STD. STD’s are bacterial, viral or parasitic diseases that are passed from one person to another through sexual contact. You would need to have sex (vaginal, anal, oral sex) with someone who is infected with an STD to get one. It’s not really a matter of not being clean enough. Good hygiene with sex is of course recommended.

    Thanks for writing in and hope this helps!

    Collage Medical Team

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kumi gitaar —

Hello i have been sexually active for a while now,a year ago i masturbated with an gel and started felling some strange itches in my penis,i went to the doctor and did some couple of test but all came out negative,and for a year now i have been but on all kinds of antibiotics,i have done all kinds of test and taking all kinds of pills and up to date i still see this whitish yellowish fluid from my penis every morning and evening am worried and scared at the same time..i have sent swaps and yet the resultd are always negative.what do i do now

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    CollageCenter

    Kumi,

    We’re so very sorry to hear of all your troubles! Discharge from a man’s penis is not normal so good job seeing a doctor and seeking to get some answers. I wish we had more of a definitive answer for you, but I think you’re doing the right thing in seeing medical professionals. If you’ve seen the same doctor over and over, I might recommend going to see a different one to get a second opinion. You could also go see a urologist – a doctor that works directly with the urethra and male reproductive organs. They may be able to give you more insight. Sometimes getting the right diagnosis can take awhile and is frustrating but keep at it!

    We hope you get some answers soon! Thanks for writing in and hope we helped a little bit!

    Collage Medical Team

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      Kumi guitar —

      Thank you for your reply I really appreciate it,I have seen 3 doctors and have seen a urologist and they all can’t tell what’s wrong with me,but I know I started getting the fluid after I used the gel am so sure they are passing something in that gel I will advise men to becareful with the kind of gel they use,my lady have gone for the test too and there is nothing wrong with her all came negative,have been given fragyl azithro have been give roxephine and others am just feed up now and don’t know what to do,my stds results are negative so what’s really wrong

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        CollageCenter

        Kumi,

        So sorry for all your troubles. It sounds like you’re doing all the right things in getting second and even third opinions. Also, good job in getting your girlfriend tested for STD’s too. I wish we could help more. Press on and we hope you get the answers you need sooner than later!

        Collage Medical Team

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Ananyomous —

If someone had sex with someone and didn’t get an std, if they had sex with that same person again could they get an std?

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    CollageCenter

    Hey there,

    This would depend on a few factors. If you, or they haven’t had sex or sexual contact with anyone else, then no, you would not get an STD from having sex with them again. If either of you have had sex with someone else, then yes, you’d be at risk for getting an STD.

    I do remind people that sex in and of itself doesn’t give STD’s, you have to have sex with someone who’s infected with a disease to get a disease. Sex is a gift and when used in the right context, is safe and doesn’t pass diseases. For example, think of a married couple who are committed to each other and only have sex with each other. They can have sex freely and as much as they want and never have to worry about getting an STD.

    I know it sounds old school, but if you can, wait. I always encourage people to try and wait for that person you want to commit yourself to in a long term, monogamous relationship and you can enjoy sex freely without worrying! Worth thinking about 🙂 We want you to be safe and healthy.

    Thank you for your question and hope this helps!

    Collage Medical Team

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Will —

So my girlfriend is in her period, can we still have sex using a condom?

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    CollageCenter

    Hi Will,

    Yes, you can still have sex with or without a condom while a woman has her period. And just to remember that a woman can still get pregnant if having sex on their period and there is still risk of STD’s if your partners sexual history is unknown. A condom does provide protection but remember not 100%. I know it’s hard but I always recommend waiting sexually if you can, wait for that person you commit yourself to in a long-term, monogamous relationship! It may sound crazy but like to remind people that it is an option and to consider it! We want you to be happy and healthy.

    Thanks for your question,

    Collage Medical Team

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Emily —

If your gonorrhea symptoms go away after a few days after treatment shot does that mean the infection is gone? And can you still transmit gonorrhea even if you use a condom?

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    CollageCenter

    So glad you contacted us. Great job in reaching out to get accurate information so you can take care of yourself.

    To answer your questions:
    1) Gonorrhea symptoms should subside within just a coupe days of your prescribed treatment but that does not mean it is gone. You should wait
    7-10 days after finishing medication before having sex to be sure the medication has had the recommended amount of time to cure the gonorrhea. To avoid getting infected with gonorrhea again or spreading gonorrhea to your partner(s), you and you sex partner(s) should avoid having sex until you have each have completed treatment.

    2) Consistent and correct use of the male latex condom may reduce the risk of sexually transmitted disease, including gonorrhea, however, condom use cannot provide absolute protection against any STD. According to the CDC, the most reliable ways to avoid transmission of STDs are to abstain from sexual activity, or to be in a long-term mutually monogamous relationship with an uninfected partner.

    If we can help in any other way please let us know. We are here for you and believe in you!!

    The Collage Medical Team

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anon

Hi, I have got big bumps start to rise on my penis(Look likes genital warts), I’ve been with the same girl for 9 months and this has only happened now, Does this mean she was unfaithful or can it be from a past partner.

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    CollageCenter

    Hey Anon,

    This does not mean your girlfriend has been unfaithful. But if you’re in question, I would encourage you both to talk about sex and if you’re being monogamous with each other. This is a good thing to know either way! Genital sores and/or warts usually come from a viral infection and many times you can have the virus in your system before you show symptoms. It is very possible that this could be from a past partner and it is possible it could be from your girlfriend or one of her past partners. I definitely recommend you and your girlfriend get some testing for STD’s. Also, a doctor would be able to look at your genital warts and help you diagnose what’s going on too.

    I hope this helps and hope you get the answers you need!

    Collage Medical Team

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Diamond —

Hey I had an std before but I had it in January and got rid of it. Now in July me and my boyfriend had sex and I know I haven’t been with anyone else but him and he is telling me the same thing.And we had unprotected sex once and He called me saying did I give him something because he has been feeling weird. I don’t kno what to do I need help please

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    CollageCenter

    Hi Diamond,

    Sorry for the hard situation you are in! First of all, it would be good to
    know what symptoms your boyfriend is having. Just “feeling weird” would not
    mean that you have an STD, in fact most of the time STD’s are silent,
    meaning they have no symptoms. If you were tested and treated in January,
    then you can be sure that you did not pass *that* STD a long to him. Did
    you have the full panel of STD’s tested for? Sometimes clinics, like ours
    will test for common ones – we test for chlamydia and gonorrhea only and
    then refer people who would need more STD testing elsewhere.

    My best advice would be for your boyfriend to go see a doctor for his
    symptoms and/or go to a clinic where they test for STD’s and get a definite
    answer that way. Often people “feel” funny and google their symptoms, this
    never leads to good things! There could be many reasons for his symptoms.
    If you weren’t tested for the full panel of STD’s than maybe you did pass
    along a different STD to him, or maybe he got them from a different,
    previous partner, or maybe his symptoms are all together something else
    unrelated to STD’s. If he is concerned then he should get seen. And you can
    always get tested again too if you need peace of mind!

    Hope you both get the answers and help you need!

    Collage Medical Team

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Seymone —

I have a serious question because this is bothering me to death. Let’s say I had sex partner for a long time…and we had sex unprotected now if I slipped up and had sex with somebody else unprotected on a Thursday….and turned around and had unprotected sex on a Saturday with the main person I been having sex with…Could the dude I had sex with Saturday have gonorrhea as well? The dude I had sex with on Thursday said he doesn’t have nothing..plus his other female partner went to the doctor and didn’t have anything….but the main dude saying he went to the doctor and have papers (which I haven’t seen) saying that he is negative. Now hypothetically speaking if the dude I had sex with Thursday gave it to me that clearly means the main dude Saturday would of still caught it correct? There is no way around it! STDs don’t skip people like that! Like how long after u are exposed before it passes to somebody else?

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    CollageCenter

    Hello Seymone,

    I am assuming you had an STD test and it came back to show you were positive for gonorrhea?

    First off let me start with a few facts about Gonorrhea. One of the main things is that gonorrhea often has no symptoms, meaning you can have this for a long period of time and not know it. I’m not sure when the last time you would of been tested for and STD but it is possible you might of had this for awhile now.

    The incubation period for gonorrhea is usually 3-5 days but can be up to 30 days. Usually what happens is, you have sex with someone who is infected and you are infected right away. Incubation period means the amount of time it takes for the bacteria to replicate to show positive on an STD test or show symptoms. I’m not sure when your “main guy” was tested but if it was during that incubation period after he had sex with you, he could have gotten a false negative test. And maybe you got it from your “Thursday” guy but remember, you might of had this for awhile now too.

    And it is possible to have unprotected sex with someone infected and not acquire and STD. It is sure not recommended or smart but it’s not a 100% guarantee that someone will get an infection. Just as you probably wouldn’t kiss a person with strep throat cause most likely you’d get strep yourself, you could kiss them and not get it too. So no, often they don’t skip people, but it can.

    I hope I helped answer some of your questions! I try to remind people there is usually such a freedom that comes with having one long term monogamous sexual relationship! I know it sounds old school but you don’t have to worry about STD’s, there is a mutual trust and bond. Something to think about it! Want you to be happy and healthy!

    Collage Medial Team

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ahahjdnehe —

me and my boyfriend are virgins and i noticed a reddish bump (the size of pinky nail) on my vagina and it really scares me that i might have std . is std possible if we are virgins and have unprotected sex ?

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    CollageCenter

    Hello,

    Great question, one that we get asked quite a bit actually. First of all, let me address the STD and virgins part. If both of you are virgins, never had any vaginal, anal or oral sex with anyone else, then no, you would not get an STD from each other. You get an STD by having sex with someone who is infected with an STD. Sex in and of itself is a good thing and used in the right context, will never just give you an STD. Think of two people in a marriage relationship, they can have sex as much as they want with each other and never have to worry about having an STD! 🙂

    The sore reddish bump could be any number of things and if it doesn’t go away, I would really recommend going to get seen by a doctor for that. They would be best to help you diagnosis it and help treat it. No fun to have a sore bump there.

    Hope this is a bit helpful! Thanks for writing in.

    Collage Medical Team

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leah —

Hello,
I have a question about the silence of STDs and if it’s possible that I’ve had one and didn’t know. Recently, someone that I had sex with almost a year ago told me that he had an STD after we had intercourse, but I know that he also had sex with 2 other people within that same week. I had an STD check a month before having intercourse with him that came back negative for everything, and only had 2 other partners between hearing back from my test results and my intimate relationship with him. I also have not heard this from any of the partners I have been with for the past year; is it possible that I just transmitted it to one person? I am very nervous and plan on getting tested this week, but it seems impossible that only one of my sexual partners in the past year has claimed to have gotten an STD from me and the rest haven’t. Also, the fact that he had sex with other people leads me to be a little bit skeptical of his claim that it was me. Please help me gather some more information so I can have some peace of mind before I get tested this week.

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    CollageCenter

    Hi Leah,

    One of the main points I teach about STD’s is that most are silent, no symptoms while we are infected. That is one of the hardest parts of these STD’s and getting people treated because people feel fine, they aren’t getting tested and can end up spreading disease. So to answer your first question, yes, it is very possible for you to have an STD and not know it.

    With your other question about your past partner and who gave who an STD, that would be hard to pinpoint as both of you had several other sexual partners. You could have gotten infected from either of your two sexual partners, and then ended up infecting him. Or he could of gotten infected from his other sexual partners. I think you have to realize that unless your sexual partners have never had sex with anyone else, or have gotten STD testing recently, you’re not only being exposed to that one person, but all their past partners too. This is why it would be so hard to pinpoint where this STD came from. All in all, it’s great both of you are getting tested. It is recommended that if you do have several sexual partners, to get routine STD testing. And yes, if people do have a positive test, it is great if they can contact their past partners so they also can get tested and treated too. I know it’s hard but no blame needs to be passed. Especially in your case, it’s really hard to see where the STD came from. Get your test done and then go from there! And remember, if you do have an STD – that STD does NOT define you, just like getting a cold does not define you. I always recommend, if possible to wait sexually till you can be in a long term, monogamous relationship. One example of this would be a marriage, this really reduces your risk of STD’s and helps keep you healthy!

    Hope this helps and hope you get the answers you need. Remember, just take one step at a time.

    Collage Medical Team

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Trudy —

My boyfriend was my first time having sex and I was his first time having sex, is it possible I have an STI

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    CollageCenter

    Hi Trudy,

    Good job asking questions! This is actually a question we get quite often and I’m happy to help answer this for you. STD’s can be passed through vaginal, anal and oral sex, as well as mutual masturbation. If this is the first sexual contact for both of you, then no, you would not get an STD from each other. You get an STD from having sex with someone who is infected with and STD. And it’s when you have multiple sexual partners through the course of time that puts you at a higher risk because you are not only exposed to them, but possibly all their past sexual partners as well.

    To be healthiest we always recommend people wait to have sex until they are in a mutual, committed, long-term monogamous relationship. For example, two people in a committed marriage can enjoy sex as much as they want and never have to worry about STD’s!

    Hope this helps answer your question!

    Collage Medical Team

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Elexus —

I kind of lost my virginity yesterday. We of course used a condom. The guy was in for about 10 seconds then changed his mind and went to sleep. I was told to get checked for std’s, but is it even possible to get one when he wasn’t in for more than about 10 seconds?

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    CollageCenter

    Hello Elexus,

    Thanks for writing in with your question. Unfortunately, there’s a chance you could’ve contracted an STD even from that brief sexual encounter. Condoms do offer protection, but as the Centers for Disease Control (CDC) says, they reduces the risk, not eliminates the risk for contracting an STD. Also, there are some STD’s that are passed by skin to skin contact such as Syphilis, Herpes, HPV and Trichomoniasis. As condoms are very site specific, there’s still usually genital to genital contact. I’m certainly not trying to scare you with these facts and do think your chances of having an STD would be low, but I also cannot guarantee that you wouldn’t have gotten one! I really would recommend getting tested to make sure and also for your peace of mind. You can often find centers that test and treat for free. Here at Collage, we work with the state and are able to test and treat for Chlamydia and Gonorrhea at no cost to you. It’s all confidential too.

    And, if I can… I would encourage you to wait sexually. Wait till you meet that person who is amazing and thinks you’re amazing too! You deserve good sexual encounters because sex is such a gift. It can be a wonderful thing when two people have a mutual love, respect and commitment towards each other. I know I always sound old school when I say this, but I always recommend that people wait for sex till they find someone they want to spend a lifetime with. For example, two people in a committed marriage relationship can enjoy sex freely and as much as they want to without ever worrying about STD’s. Above all, I want to remind you that you deserve the best and the best is out there!

    Hope this helps answer your question.
    All the best,

    Collage Medical Team

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Joe —

Hello.
My boyfriend 6 or more months ago noticed at wart on the shaft of his penis, closest to his body. He got STD tested and they were negative. At that appt. he got a frozen treatment & since then the wart has come back. I don’t know what this could be, everything I find online says that warts in the genital area are all caused by STDs, but he tested negative.

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    CollageCenter

    Hi Joe,

    I’m pretty sure you could get a non STD related wart in your genital region. Often times it is related to an STD but not always. The best advice I would have is to ask exactly what STD’s your boyfriend was tested for. Even when a place says they are testing for the “full panel” I’d want to know exactly what tests were being run. HPV is usually diagnosed based off symptoms, one being warts, did they mention this at all? I would recommend calling your physician or physician’s nurse to clarify what they tested for and what the wart was and why the froze it off. You could say that it came back and ask what would they recommend. So good that you are asking questions, keep asking them! My best advice would be to call and/or go back for more answers! Wish we could help you more here! Let us know if you have any further questions!

    Thanks for writing in,
    Collage Medical Team

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Steve —

Hi i scared i might have a STD. me and this girl were dating and we both lost our virginity to each other and we’ve had sex like everyday and maybe like 40 or more times in our relationship. but one of the times we’ve had sex we didn’t use a condom but she was dry and it didn’t feel good so i didn’t go all the way in all i did was just put the tip on the vagina but didn’t go in at all. And couple of times she’s had a UTI problems and when ever i was dine and i pulled my penis out there was blood on the condom from her and i was real careful on taking the condom off and once or twice it went on my leg. I’ve masterbated lots of times before i meet her some times in our relationship. two times I’ve fingered her like two times and i don’t think i had any cuts, and she’s gave me a hnadjob and i don’t think she had any cuts as well. Other times we’ve made out and i think i had a cut inside my mouth. Ive never had sex with anyone else besides her and she’s never had sex with anyone else besides me. we broke up and I’m not having sex until i meet the right one. I’m just freaking out that i might have some thing. I NEED YOUR HELP!!!!!!

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    CollageCenter

    Hi Steve,

    First, good job seeking out answers to your questions! Secondly, I’m sorry you are so freaked out! Deep breaths, and I will do my best to help answer your questions. If you and your ex-girlfriend were each others first sexual partners, that’s vaginal, anal and oral sex, then you would not have passed an STD to each other. STD’s do not happen or appear from lots of sex or not being clean enough. I always remind people that in the right context sex is a good, good thing! It’s when you have increased, different sexual partners that you would be at risk for acquiring an STD. You have to have sexual contact with someone who is infected with an STD to acquire one. I think people often view STD’s as dirty, so they think being dirty or in your case worrying about cuts would possibly transfer an STD, but this is not true. To get an STD, you have to have sexual contact with someone who has the sexual infection or disease.

    I always recommend to be in a long term, committed, mutually monogamous relationship for sexual relationships. For example, think of a married couple, they can enjoy sex as much as they want being in this long term, committed, mutually monogamous relationship and never have to worry about an STD. So I commend you saying you want to wait till you meet the right one! You can do it and it will help you to be safe and healthy all around! Good job Steve.

    Hope this helps and best to you!
    Collage Medical Team

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Tumi —

Hi

I had sex with my ex boyfriend and I fell pregnant then the following month I had sex with my boyfriend without knowing that I was pregnant, 3 months later I got tested for hiv and the results were positive. I’ve asked both guys to get tested and their results came back negative, I also have a swollen lymph node on my groin, is it possible that my pregnancy is uttering with my results?

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    CollageCenter

    Hello Tumi,

    I am so sorry for your diagnosis. Your pregnancy would not affect your test results. Depending on the test they gave you, they test for specific antibodies or antigens that your body makes when you have a HIV infection. You would not produce these antibodies or antigens upon getting pregnant.

    There could be many different scenarios for this. I would highly recommend talking to your primary healthcare provider about your questions and concerns. Depending on viral load, antibodies, and antigens they may be able to tell how long you’ve had HIV. It is possible you’ve had HIV previously and not known it. I would also recommend getting a confirmatory test if you’ve only had one HIV test done.

    In addition, it’s very important for you to be seen closely for your prenatal care. With the right medications, taken correctly through the course of your pregnancy and medications given to your baby, there can be a less than 1% change of passing HIV to your baby.

    If you truly are positive for HIV, medications and treatment for HIV have come such a long way. With good medical care and taking medications consistently and correctly, HIV can be very manageable.

    Again, I’m very sorry for your diagnosis. Great job seeking out answers to your questions, don’t stop asking questions. I hope you get the help and support you need. And congratulations on baby on the way.

    All the best,

    Collage Medical Team

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Emanuela —

Hello,
I want to ask, First my partner has got syphilis this summer, and he didn’t know it, after that we had sex, so my blood test has provided positive, so I get syphilis also. We are both under therapy, but we are still together and have action sometimes with condoms. Should we stop do that or there is no space to panic too much ? PLEASE TELL, cause we want to know, what we have to do ??

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    CollageCenter

    Hi Emanuela,

    Sorry to hear of your diagnosis! As you know, syphilis is treatable, so that’s good!

    Depending on the stage of your syphilis, your symptoms, and treatment there are recommendations to help prevent reinfection. Even with condoms there’s a risk of acquiring or transmitting the disease as syphilis sores can appear where condoms do not cover.

    The CDC states sexual partners of people with syphilis are at risk if they’ve had sexual contact within:
    Primary Syphilis: Duration of symptoms plus 3 months
    Secondary Syphilis: Duration of symptoms plus 6 months
    Latent Syphilis: 1 year for persons with early latent syphilis

    Hard to hear but if you want to be ultimately safe, then the recommendation would be to refrain from sexually activity (oral, vaginal and anal) until the duration of symptoms is gone, plus the recommended months, depending on the stage of syphilis you have. The CDC has great information on STD’s and syphilis. Below are some links to a couple of their pages for you.

    I hope this helps answer your question! And remember, you can ask your care provider questions. They should be able to tell you what stage your syphilis is at and sexual recommendations.

    All the best,

    Collage Medical Team

    http://www.cdc.gov/std/syphilis/stdfact-syphilis.htm

    http://www.cdc.gov/std/tg2015/syphilis.htm#syph-man

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Jane —

I’m a girl that recently got tested positive for chlamydia. I have an idea of who gave it to me. anyway I had anal sex with a different guy (just anal) is it possible that I gave him chlamydia

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    CollageCenter

    Hi Jane,

    Thanks for reaching out. Yes it’s possible as STD’s are spread through vaginal, oral and anal contact, including mutual masturbation, with or without vaginal or semen secretions.If you got treated for your infection, it’s recommended that people wait 7-10 days after treatment before resuming sexual activity to not pass the infection on. If your new partner was in that time window then I would encourage you to have a talk with them so they can seek testing and treatment if needed.

    Good job asking questions. Hope this helped answer your question!

    Collage Medical Team

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Joe —

I just found out I scored .91 on herpes test. I have contacted the women told them. they got tested. they All tested negative. How do I have .91, I read that .91 doesn’t mean you have it or doesn’t mean you don’t. Some say it means you been exposed to it. they say stress can bring it on. you have to be .90 or less to be negative. I am really losing my mind. I mean losing it. How can I have this if no one I had sex with doesn’t have it and all test came back negative? I also read that if you ever chicken pox can confuse test…is this true? I I have folliculitis(not sure if I spell it right) but I have outbreaks of that on my head and the come and go all the time. Could this show a .91 on your test? or is what I thought was folliculitis is herpes on my head? I have scratched my head picking at them and probably went to urine and when I touch my self could I have spread it to myself? o you see why I’m losing my mind? I really want to talk to a professional on this because my doctor doesn’t have the answers. He said i’m right on the border of not having it but we have to treat as if I do. one more thing my friend has a son that gets out breaks on his mouth bad. I come in contact with him a lot because we watch each other kids…could I have touch a cup or anything he touch and used the rest room and transferred it that way? I’m losing my mind thinking about it. doc said I should retest in 3-6months Please clear some things up for me

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    CollageCenter

    Hi Joe,

    So sorry this has brought you so much stress! Let’s just take a deep breath and go through what we know. Yes, I could see how a doctor would want to make sure and re-test you again in 3-6 months since you were on the edge with your results. From most of what I read about your results, most would probably consider you negative. 1.1-3.5 would be considered a low index value, an indication for retesting. For some reason your doctor thought it wise to retest you even though you were below a 1. Were you having symptoms? Some sores?

    I can totally see your concern. I think it’s a good thing that the women you’ve been with have all tested negative, that would be more likely that your next test would come back negative. These tests are good but not 100% accurate. There can definitely be false positive and false negatives. I think this is why they do confirmation testing again.

    I don’t think you have herpes on your head. And herpes would not come from itching folliculitis on your head and than touching yourself in the genital region. Also, I do not think it came from watching the child who gets sores on his mouth. Herpes is a sexually transmitted disease, most often transmitted though vaginal, anal, oral sex.

    I put a few links below about herpes and herpes testing. Most these have the markers 1.1-3.5 and you were well below that.

    http://www.cdc.gov/std/tg2015/qa/herpes-qa.htm
    http://www.ashasexualhealth.org/pdfs/HSV_Diagnostcs_Providers.pdf

    Hope this helps a little bit.
    And remember, even if you DO have herpes or if you would ever get another STD. It doesn’t change who you are or how valuable you are! STD’s don’t define who you are. I know it would be a hard diagnosis but you are still as valuable with a STD as you are without!

    All the best,

    Collage Medical Team

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ANONYMOUS —

I’ve had sex with only one person, my partner. But he’s had sex with many in the past. We’ve been together for over 2 years. I’ve never cheated on him or even thought about it. I had to get tested before I went on birth control and I was positive for chlamydia. But he took the test and he was a negative. Why is that? It’s causing a lot of trouble in our relationship. He thinks that somebody might’ve sexually abused me when I was little but no one has and he said if that’s not it then I’m cheating on him. I need serious help please. Just reply with anything. It’ll help hopefully. It’s bad to where I’m stressing out like crazy and not eating… help needed please.

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    CollageCenter

    Dear ANONYMOUS,

    I am so sorry that you have had so much stress and confusion over this! I will do my best to give you the information I have to try and help! We have had a few times where one partner will be positive and the other negative, so it does definitely happen.

    For you to have contracted chlamydia, it would have to have been sexually. Now keep in mind this could be through oral, vaginal or anal sex. So if you had any sexual contact before your current boyfriend, you could of gotten it then. And chlamydia often has no symptoms, so you could of had it for a long time. But I realize you may not have had any sexual contact with anyone else besides your boyfriend. So another idea is that you could of had a false positive test. These tests are very accurate but not 100%. I’m sure they treated you already, which they should have, so it would be hard to retest to make sure.

    Your boyfriend could of had a false negative test. In which case, he could go back and get retested to make sure. And if you guys are sexually active, I would recommend that because there could be reinfection if he really is positive but test came back negative.

    Another thing that may of happened is that he could of had chlamydia and been treated without knowing it if he was ever given a certain antibiotic for another infection. Treatment for chlamydia is one dose of 1000mg of the antibiotic, Azithromycin. Azithromycin can be used to treat a variety of infections. So maybe he did pass the chlamydia infection to you, and been treated without knowing it, if he was treated with this same antibiotic for a different infection.

    There are probably more and more different explanations but let’s get down to some facts. You did not cheat. Chlamydia is a STD that easily treated, and if you were treated, it’s gone. Having chlamydia does not define who you are, just like having a cold does not define who you are. I know this all feels very confusing and some mistrust going around. But I would encourage you to take a deep breath, look at what the facts and what is important. I would hope your boyfriend can end up trusting you based on all the different reasons he could of had a false and you a positive, but if your boyfriend ends up not trusting you, then yes, that is very sad but but remember the facts above. You did not cheat and you are just as valuable and wonderful, even though you had chlamydia.

    I hope this helps and hope you guys can work through this confusing time!
    All the best,

    Collage Medical Team

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ANNON —

I’ve only ever had oral sex with one person before, in which I gave him oral as well. And recently I’ve gotten another partner in which he has given me oral sex. Neither of them have had sexual partners in the past except for me, is there a possibility I could have an STD since they were both clean?

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    CollageCenter

    Hello,

    If both your sexual partners have not had any other sexual partners besides you, then no, you would not be at risk of getting an STD from them. You are right in knowing that you can get STD’s orally, so great question. I always remind people that STD’s are passed through vaginal, anal and oral sex.

    You get an STD from having sex with someone who is infected with an STD. STD’s do not come from just a lot of sex. I feel like an old school’er saying this but sex is a wonderful thing and a gift when used in the right context! The CDC say’s one of the surest, safest ways to not get a STD would be to just have sex in a long term, mutually monogamous relationship. One example of this would be two people who are married. They can have as much sex as they want and never have to worry about having an STD. So, just a thought! We want you to be happy and healthy!

    Hope this helps!

    Collage Medical Team

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Anonymous —

I was recently diagnosed with trich. I took the medication and got cured. However my boyfriend didn’t and I’m fairly certain I have it again. I have a dr. Appointment to get it taken care of. My concern is my 5 year old. I usually wash my hands after wipeing, but may have touched my vagina and the came into contact with him. Also I sleep naked in my bed and don’t change my sheets everyday and my son sometimes sleeps in my bed. I’m concerned he may have contracted it but don’t know how to get him tested without child services being involved. I feel like I can’t get him checked without questions asked. I would never do anything to my son. I have a general concern that I need to have answers on. Thank you

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    CollageCenter

    Hello,

    I’m sorry to hear of your infection and reinfection! The thing with some of these STD’s is that yes, they are easily treatable but just as easily gotten back if you have sexual contact with someone who is infected. If your boyfriend was not treated, I would get him treated too. Many people don’t have symptoms when they have an STD, so they think they don’t have one, which is not the case.

    I can totally see your concern for you little one but I think it’s very, very unlikely that he would have acquired an STD from you. Trichomoniasis is a sexually transmitted disease (STD), meaning it’s passed from having sexual contact. The CDC says that it is not common for the parasite to infect other body parts, like hands, mouth or anus. You can read more about Trichomoniasis here from the CDC: http://www.cdc.gov/std/trichomonas/stdfact-trichomoniasis.htm

    If you are really concerned that your little guy got infected, I think it would be totally fine to talk to a doctor. Just like you explained to me. You said you have an appointment to go back, you could always talk to that doctor about your concerns then. Just like any other infection, we would be concerned for those we live and share life with.

    Hope this helps! Again, definitely get your boyfriend treated too!

    All the best,
    Collage Medical Team

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