5 Relationship Resolutions for The New Year
As you head into a new year it’s a great time to reflect on what went well with your relationships last year and what you would like to improve. Here are five relationship resolutions to help you make healthier connections in the new year.
1 - Be comfortable with who you are first. A new year is a great time to do a personal inventory of who you are and what makes you unique. Reflect on qualities that you think are an asset in a relationship. Are you funny or more serious? Are you adventurous or a homebody? Do you love helping people? By asking yourself serious questions about yourself, then you know how to set your expectations of what kind of relationship you’d like to be in. This will help you evaluate if someone is a good match for your personality. And let’s face it, if you don’t know who you are you put yourself at serious risk for being molded into what someone else wants you to be and that’s never a good thing.
2 - Give up the hook up. If you’re serious about healthy relationships you need to stop the hook ups. You know, the ones where the attraction is only physical and you know right out of the gate it isn’t going past tonight. Why waste your time? Trust us when we say this is not only a good resolution to help you steer clear of STDs or a potential unexpected pregnancy, but it will also let quality guys know you are not a one night stand. And that makes for real relationship material.
3 - Maintain current relationships. Don’t let a new relationship become the center of your universe. We’re all guilty. One or two dates and you start thinking to yourself, “He’s it. He’s the one.” Maybe he is, but maybe he isn’t. Don’t put the rest of your life on hold because you have a new guy in your life. This becomes a problem when you start to ignore family, friends or hobbies. For the new year make the resolution to take it slow. Let things progress at a natural pace.
4 - Refuse to obsess over the past. Someone may have hurt you badly in the past. You were deeply committed and they weren’t. Or, they ended the relationship just when you thought it was going well. It’s hard not to take this into your first date with someone new, but don’t. They aren’t that person and neither are you. You’ve grown and now you’re ready to start again. Go into your date with a clean slate. If you’re majorly obsessed with the last guy then you’re not ready to date someone new. Be honest with yourself.
5 - You’re worthy of a great relationship. If you’ve had guys treat you poorly in the past you may be tempted to slip into negative thinking. That sets you up for failure before you even start. You’re starting off a new year. Stop telling yourself the same old story. Instead, remember that you’re a beautiful unique individual who someone out there is just dying to get to know. Don’t let negativity dominate your thoughts before you even get started.
What relationship resolutions would you add? We would love to hear from you.
