Grieving the Loss of an Unexpected Pregnancy

Finding out about an unexpected pregnancy can produce many different kinds of emotions: scared, panicked, ashamed, uncertain, and so on. It can take time to reach the point of accepting this new possible reality. But what happens when all of a sudden, this possibility is no longer happening?

A miscarriage or loss of a pregnancy can bring up so many varying feelings and physical pain. Some feel guilt, sadness, profound grief, or any combination of emotions. But on the other hand, somebody experiencing an unexpected pregnancy may even feel a sense of relief. What was once a point of concern, stress, and fear, is no longer a ‘problem.’ Although that reaction may seem wrong and harsh, we definitely don’t judge you for those thoughts. We’re all human; we all deal with the unexpected differently.

Dealing with the Grief

We want to remind you that a miscarriage is a very real hurt that many women and men struggle with. No matter the length of your pregnancy, time doesn’t diminish your pain. Don’t try to hurry up and get over this loss. Take the time you need to mourn.

Some people choose to honor a pregnancy loss through different acts of remembrances. For example, you can symbolize the loss by getting a tattoo, purchasing something like a stuffed animal or jewelry, or planting a tree. Others want a ceremony where they can have a specific moment to remember their loss. You’ll know what you want to do. Choose something that fits you and your family. Sometimes naming the baby you lost can help with a remembrance by being able to call the baby by a name rather than by ‘it’ or ‘the baby.’

Talking about pregnancy loss can be difficult, but it can offer another healing avenue. This can be done by talking to someone close, joining a support group, journaling, or even writing a blog to share your experience with the world.

We care about you, and we know that your grieving process is complicated. No, you’ll never forget the child you lost, but you will get to a point where it’ll be easier. We want you to know that.

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If your girlfriend is facing an unexpected pregnancy and considering the abortion pill, you're probably wondering about costs and whether insurance will cover it. Before considering the abortion pill, it’s vital that your girlfriend receives an ultrasound. We offer these at no cost with no insurance necessary. She can schedule a free, confidential appointment online at Collage. Can Your Insurance Cover Her? Health insurance covers the policyholder and enrolled dependents. A girlfriend typically isn't a covered dependent on your plan, which means your insurance generally won't pay for her medical care. The exception is if she's been added to your plan as a domestic partner and your employer allows that. Additionally, you may be able to extend insurance coverage to her after marriage if your policy allows this as a qualifying event. However, the chances of insurance covering an elective abortion are unlikely. What About Her Own Insurance in Nebraska? Under Nebraska law , standard health insurance plans in the state cannot cover elective abortion unless the insured purchases a separate abortion rider. Medicaid in Nebraska covers abortion only in limited circumstances. In most cases, the abortion pill in Nebraska will be an out-of-pocket cost. What She Should Know About the Drug The abortion pill uses two drugs. The first, mifepristone , blocks progesterone, a hormone required to sustain the pregnancy. The second, misoprostol , taken a day or two later, causes the uterus to contract and expel the pregnancy tissue. The FDA approves this drug regimen through 10 weeks of gestation. Nebraska law also requires that the abortion pill be prescribed and administered in person by a physician. Complications can include heavy bleeding, infection , incomplete abortion, and digestive system discomfort. If the drug does not fully end the pregnancy, a follow-up procedure might be required. Getting the Facts First A free ultrasound at Collage confirms your girlfriend’s gestational age, whether the pregnancy is in the uterus, and whether the pregnancy is progressing. An ectopic pregnancy (when the pregnancy implants outside the uterus) requires different medical treatment than abortion, and could be life-threatening if left untreated. An ultrasound can rule out this complication. Schedule a free, confidential appointment at Collage today. Call: 308.234.9880 in Kearney or 308.675.2217 in Grand Island. *All abortion information sourced in this blog is based on accurate information at the time of writing. **Collage does not provide or refer for abortions; however, we do offer pre-abortion screening through our no-cost services.

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