Oral Sex Q&A

Oral Sex Q&A

What’s the big deal about oral sex? It’s safe and it won’t get you pregnant, right? It’s not even real sex.

These are questions and comments we hear from clients.  Questions and comments based on assumptions they have made about oral sex and the risks involved. Sometimes they have good information, sometimes, not so much. Most of their information comes from stories they’ve heard, their friends, and sometimes their own experiences. Because of the misinformation out there about oral sex, we thought we’d do a Question and Answer post. We want to set the record straight and provide you with some reliable information to help you make good, healthy decisions.

Q.What is oral sex?

A. Oral sex is any contact between the genitals of one person and the mouth and/or tongue of another.

Q. Is oral sex even real sex?

A. Many refer to vaginal intercourse or coitus as “real sex”. This is when the penis penetrates into the vagina. However, sexual intercourse as defined by also includes a secondary definition of sex as any genital contact other than vaginal sex. So yes, by definition oral sex is still sex.

          sexual intercourse n.*

1. Coitus between humans.

2. Sexual union between humans involving genital contact other than vaginal penetration by the penis.

Q. I can’t get pregnant from oral sex, can I?

A. No. As long as there is no vaginal sex, or vaginal contact with semen, you won’t get pregnant. But, oral sex often leads to a desire for more physical contact and in the heat of the moment, can lead to vaginal sex.

Q. So if I can’t get pregnant, is oral sex safe sex?

A. The answer to this one is clear. Oral sex is not safe sex. Like other methods of sex, oral sex presents a risk of serious, sometimes untreatable and life-threatening sexually transmitted diseases (STDs). Both men and women are at risk of catching STDs through oral sex, just as with vaginal and anal sex. Oral sex is known to spread diseases such as gonorrhea, chlamydia, syphilis, genital herpes, HPV and HIV. Some of these are curable with antibiotics, some are treatable but not curable and as mentioned, some are life threatening.

If you think you might have contracted a STD from oral sex, you should seek testing and treatment immediately. Collage offers complimentary testing for both Gonorrhea and Chlamydia. If you’d like to schedule an appointment, please call us at (308) 234-9880 in Kearney, or (308) 675-2217 in Grand Island.

Do you have other questions about oral sex we haven’t answered? If so, leave your question in the comments section and one of our staff will answer them for you.


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There are 12 comments .

Breanna —

I have never had oral sex and neither has my partner, or any type of sex for that matter. What are the chances of us getting it?

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    Hi Breanna,

    If you’ve never had oral, vaginal, and/or anal sex, than I would say that you would have no risk of getting an STD. And also to remember that some STD’s are spread through genital to genital touch, STD’s such as herpes and HPV have sores or warts that if you get into contact with them, you can get infected that way too. Otherwise, unless you are having sex and/or sexual contact with someone who is infected with an STD, you would not be at risk of acquiring one.

    The Centers for Disease Control says that the surest way to avoid an STD is by one, not having sex. There are other things you can do such as using condoms correctly every time, which reduce the risk. Another great and safe way is to wait to have sex until you find that person you want to be in a long term, mutually monogamous relationship with. In this way, you can enjoy sex freely, as much as you want and never have to worry about STD’s!

    Hope this helps, great job asking questions!

    Collage Medical Team

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Sara jane —

Hello ! 🙂 i’ve been having oral sex with my partner a few months now. This is my first time experiencing oral or any kind of sex with a partner. My partner is a virgin but im not sure if he had oral sex before , i dont think so but im not sure. If this has been going on for months and i didnt notice any STD symptoms , does this mean we’re both safe?

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    Hi Sara,

    Good question! It would be good to have a conversation with your partner about past sexual partners. STD’s can be passed through vaginal, anal and oral sex. So it is very possible to get an STD from oral sex. If you are his first sexual partner ever, than you would not be at risk for an STD. The risk happens if he’s had other oral sexual partners, which is why it’s good to have that talk. Also, the hard thing about STD’s is that most often people who have an STD, have no symptoms. Which sounds nice but symptoms are a good thing to let us know when we are sick or hurt, and then we can treat what needs treated.

    If you are nervous about it, I would first suggest both of you talking about your past partners. And then if still nervous, I would recommend just going in and getting tested. It sounds like you are wanting to be safe and STD free, which is wonderful! Good job asking questions – keep asking them. I’m old school, but I will always recommend waiting for sex till you find that person you want to commit the rest of your life with! Then you can enjoy sex as much and freely as you want without worrying about STD’s!

    Hope this helps!
    Collage Medical Team

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Karyn —

Hey there 🙂
Both my boyfriend and myself are virgins and have never had oral/anal/vaginal sex with anyone. We are starting to think about oral sex, do we need to use condoms for oral if we have never had sex with anyone?

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    Hi Karyn,

    Thanks for writing in! If both you and your boyfriend are virgins and have never had any sex then you would not contract an STD from each other. Now, I’m going to add that sometimes STD’s can be passed through genital to genital contact too. Some STD’s have sores and/or warts that if you come into contact with them, you can be infected. I’m telling you that more so you know for future reference as I think it sounds like you and your boyfriend haven’t done much sexually.

    STD’s will never just pop up from sex in and of itself. Sex is a good thing and a gift! You get an STD by having sex (anal, oral, vaginal and even the genital to genital contact) with someone who is infected with an STD. So it’s when you have a sexual partner, then later you have a different sexual partner, then another one later. That’s only three partners but you are also exposed to all their past partners and so forth.

    As far as condoms with oral sex, there is no risk of pregnancy but as your question indicated, yes STD’s can be passed through oral sex, so a condom can reduce the transmission of STDs but not eliminate them. I however always recommend waiting sexually. I know that’s not the easiest or most popular option but I believe it’s the healthiest and best. If you can wait for sex until you meet that amazing person you want to spend the rest of your life within a committed relationship, then you can enjoy sex as much and as freely as you want without worrying about STD’s. Definitely an option to consider!

    Hope this helps!

    Collage Medical Team

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Mike —

I had unprotected sex a month ago but show no symptoms. The girl did have pimples around her mouth but over the years so have I. I have been tested all my life an never had a std. Now Im kinda afraid I have one.

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    Hi Mike,

    Good questions. First of all, I will say that most the time, people do not show symptoms when they have an STD. Which makes them hard to catch and treat! Pimples would not be a concern as far as STD’s go. And unfortunately, you can’t look at a person and tell if they have an STD or not. Some will have visible herpes sores or HPV warts and in that case, it would be more obvious but usually, it’s hard to know. So in this case, if you are concerned I would go in a get tested again. It doesn’t hurt anything and it’s better to be safe than sorry. I think it will give you a peace of mind too.

    I hope this helps answer some of your questions! Thanks for writing in!

    A Collage Medical Team Member

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Tyler —

I had oral sex with a guy and he didn’t “cum” in my mouth but I could taste precum and I spit after it was done, can I get hiv from oral sex? And also the day after I had the sexual encounter I went and got tested but they could only test for what has happened before the oral encounter. And I came back clean for that, I was then put into the window period and had to wait 3 months before I could officially test for the oral sex encounter, and in between that time I had oral sex with another person and also protected anal sex, then a couple weeks ago i was finally able to test for the oral so I did using oraquick would the protected sex effect the test results in anyway? Like give me a false negative?? By any chance and side note the guy I had the safe sex with while in the window period I know for a fact he can’t have anything because he never hooks up with anyone but me…so am I just over worrying myself about it?

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    Hi Tyler,

    You have some great questions!! I hope I can give you some clarity.

    There are 4 Types of sex that may expose you to an STI/STD: oral, anal, vagina, and mutual masturbation. And according to the CDC, the following STDs can be passed on through oral sex:
    ~ HIV
    ~ Syphilis
    ~ Gonorrhea
    ~ Chlamydia
    ~ Herpes
    ~ HPV (human papillomavirus)

    The protected sex you had wouldn’t have given you a false negative. If you ever think you could possibly have been exposed to an STI/STD it is best for you and other partner/partners, to not have sex until you’ve been tested and gotten results. That way you are not taking the risk of passing the infection to someone else.

    I think it’s great that you’re seeking answers for your health. If for any reason, you notice changes in your physical health, I’d encourage you to get into see your doctor. Hope this gives you some more direction.

    Kenda R.N.

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April Clark —

I have a mild yeast infection. Will I give a man thrush on the first time he gives me oral or are the chances slim?

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    Hi April! You’ve asked a really good question. Unfortunately, this is a topic we don’t have a definitive answer for. What we do know is that Candida (the fungus causing the symptoms of a yeast infection) thrives in dark, warm, moist environments. A woman’s vagina and the mouth are two places Candida can thrive and be difficult to treat. Based on our knowledge of Candida, it would be our recommendation to refrain from oral sex until you know the yeast infection is completely gone. Sexually transmitted bacteria and viruses thrive in these environments also. Chlamydia, Gonorrhea, Syphilis, HIV, HPV, Herpes, and Trichomoniasis can all be spread through oral sex. The only way to ensure the prevention of these STI’s is to be in a mutually monogamous relationship, like marriage. I’ve included a link to some more detailed information on oral sex and STI’s that I hope will be helpful and informative for you!
    Julie, RN

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